It is too high a level get a new badge and it should obey you.

How do I use an ability like flash or cut?

To use an ability you must cut a Hm which acts like a Tm only you can't delete the move and it is reuse able.

What is the maxium amount of pokemon I can catch without trading with the red version?

139 pokemon.

Where can I find the original 3 pokemon?(charmander,squirtle and bulbasaur)

You have to get someone to start the game and trade them to you.

Is Mew in the game?

Not that I know of. None of the tricks are know to work I'll keep you posted.

Why can't I identify ghosts?

You must get the sith scope from the Celadon game corner.

Is there a way to restore deleted games?

No there is not.

Why whould you want to stop a pokemon from evolving?

It will learn more powerful attacks quicker.