| Corrections are more palatable when surrounded with love. It's also a good idea to praise in public, correct in private. Even very young children are sensitive to shame, blame, and humiliation. |
| A mother of a young child told me that watching her son was like watching a person in a new country. The newcomer watches the natives to learn the rules of the culture. He imitates their actions and forms of speech. |
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| I have worked frequently with special needs kids and their families. Each is different, each reacts differently. Children with physical and/or mental disabilities put a lot of stress on the family as well as bringing much joy. Seeking outside help for the family as a whole or for individual members can often help with coping and healing. |
| Abuse encompasses physical, emotional, sexual and psychological actions that result in the demeaning of others. |
| All of us learn best with praise. Let it be sincere and age appropriate. Think of corrections as a sandwich — compliment, correction, compliment. |
| Except for very rare instances do not strike or shake your child. You can cause serious internal as well as external injury. You are allowed to feel anger and to tell your child, "I am very angry right now." Give yourself time to calm down before addressing the action that resulted in your anger. |
| Allow your child to feel. Sometimes it helps to put a label on a feeling for your child e.g. "You must have felt very sad when you lost your toy" or "That loud noise scared me, too." |
| I think that is very descriptive of children. They are "in a new country" and are learning the normal behavior of that country. Parents, guardians, caregivers can all help the child by example and gentle corrections. |
| Some days the child will try very hard to do things just as you want them done. Other days the child will just be trying. Under either circumstance remind yourself that you are the adult. You have been "in this new land" longer. You had to learn also. And there were days when you tried hard and days you, too, were just trying. |
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| Children are especially vulnerable to abuse. They can be easily harmed physically and emotionally. |
| If you are an abuser, get the child to safety and get help for yourself and the child. |
| Children who have been abused are susceptible to alcohol and drug misuse. They have the potential to become bullies and abusers. They have also been known to turn on the abuser. |
| If you know of abuse and do nothing, you are morally and legally liable. If you suspect there is abuse, report it. |
| The damage can last a lifetime. |
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