Abuse
          I have made a promise to the Lord, my God and my future spouse never to abuse my future wife. Neither verbally nor physically.

          Verbal abuse: Verbal abuse wounds the mind. It impresses a message to the victim of how inferior and weak they are. It slowly creates a VERY low-self esteem within the victim. Not only would that be against biblical values of our actions toward others, but also against the biblical viewpoint of how a husband should treat his wife. ("Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them."(col 3:19)) So, how could I so blaintly ignore God's commandments? How could I do something so painful and demeaning to the woman I want to "...love ... even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;"(Eph 5:25).

          Physical abuse: "...a man [shall] leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."(Eph 5:31) Let's focus on the what happens when two become one flesh. When two people become one 2 things happen. 1. They have the same thoughts, their thoughts do not compromise each other in major respects (this does not mean their will be no disagreement..{because after all isn't there struggles within each of us..}) 2. Their actions will only be used to help strengthen each other, and not tear each other down. The bible says "...He that loveth his wife loveth himself." (Eph 5:28) So therefore, anyone who wounds his wife, wounds himself; no matter the type of wound it is, physical or verbal.

          The main reason that this is such a burden upon my heart is because of my father. He flapped his tongue whenever he felt like it. And rarely did he ever admit that he was wrong. (It was only recently that this is changing.) He caused me, my sisters, and my mother so much pain that I decided that I could never inflict that kind of wounds upon my wife, nor my kids (should I ever have some). I knew what it was like to be the victim of verbal abuse, so I know how damaging it can be. I will NEVER EVER say anything demeaning to my wife.

          I know what you're saying. "How can you be so sure?" Well, I'll tell you. I'm not so sure that I can live up to what I claim. However, I will continually pray that God will help and strengthen me and help me to live up to this pledge that I have made. And if I mess up, and verbally abuse (I, personally, am VERY assured that I could never do any physical harm to anyone I care about) the one I love more than myself, I will immediatly get down upon my knees and beg for forgiveness. Then I'll strive with everything in me, and with God's strength to not do it again. My weakness will become His strength. Thank you JESUS!!!

          Not only am I NOT going to abuse my wife, but I plan on showing her how much that I truly do love her and how much she means to my life. That will include writing poetry (any of you that know me know that this will definitely be...and will probably be in great number), flowers, and saying "I love you" every day. I intend to show my wife what a blessing it is for her to be in my life and how thankful I am that she is willing to share her life with me. :-)

Written by:
Jonathan Johnston




My anti-abuse poems:

Cowering
he
the fear rushes
how could you?
mother, help
somebody stop him
a female's tears
teddy bear
a selfish boy
so much to lose


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