Coming Out
Coming out is probably the hardest and most important process in a teenagers life, it is an act of bravery and standing by your feelings towards yourself and the world. Since this process can be very hard and trying I have put together some information and real life stories because there are a lot more people out there like yourself!
You don't have to rush outside and decide how to label yourself right now. Your sexual feelings may be so strong that they are not directed towards particular people of situations, but yet they still seem to emerge without cause.
As you get older you will figure out to whom you are truly attracted too. Men with true gay feelings find that, over time,their attractions to men will become more clearly focused. You maybe finding yourself falling in love with a classmate or developing a crush on a particular man. You will probably find these feelings pleasurable, troubling or a mix of the two. Remember no matter what you should love yourself for who you are and not what you are.
You don't have to tell anybody your sexual preferences untill you're ready and even then you don't have to tell anybody you don't want to know. Telling your parents can be a very bad experience but you can get help and advice through the following organisations.
Mesmac North-ease on 0191 233 1333 and ask for Howard.
You can also talk to somebody at parents enquiryabout advice on telling your parents contact Joan on 0191 4552868. Being gay is not something one chooses to be which leads me to this that it is genetic.
For the last few months, I've had a thing for this boy I've seen on the bus going to collage. I used to get up at 7.30 to look out of the window where the bus stop is situated, to watch him before he got on the bus. I'd walk my dog around the estate everytime I knew his bus was due to come back, I've memorised the times so I know exactly when he will be there. I will always make sure that I am in a position to see him.
But then I think "Do I really want to be with a man, or do I just think I do." I start thinking maybe it's the security I want which I didn't get from my dad. But when I look in to it deeper, I would feel worse. I wouldn't feel secure and I'd feel insecure. I'd feel frightened that people would find out, that people would know and hate me. So it can't be that at all. Because I would rather go out with a girl and then I'd be able to walk down the street with her and people would expect that of you, so it can't be that.
But then I'll change so quickly one minute I'll be walking my dog, hoping this man is going to look out of his window and see me, I'm dying for him to see me. And then I can get home and cry about it and think, no, i'll phone Vicky, and I'll think yeah, I want to be with her. The trouble is if I go out with Vicky then I'm
cutting off everyone else. I'll go somewhere or start a new job and there'll be a
bloke there that really fancies me and really likes me in the way that I like him, and I won't be able to take the opportunity then.
Howard aged 17
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I only tell other people that I'm gay if I've known them for a long time and if they are accepting and tolerant I think it's important that they know about this special part of me.
Bill aged 18
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