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Medical Conditions: Understand all the medical conditions of your partner. Make a list of the medicines the other has to take - just in case there is an accident. Make sure everything you do is always safe. If your sub is a diabetic then circulation, food play, and length of sessions may be effected. If a person has arthritis you may need to make sure you do not move limbs in certain directions or simply make sure the person moves after so many minutes in one position. If the person has high blood pressure, look for warning signing like reddening of the face.
Ropes: Almost all of us use them at some time and in some way. The top must be certain not to cut off circulation when binding. The idea is to keep the person still, not turn them blue. Use knots that do not tighten when pulled. This way as the sub wiggles and moves you do not have to worry as much about stopping the fun and re-doing the ropes. Always have a sharp knife close by incase you need to undo the ropes quickly.
Stretching: Do not pull a person too tight or for too long. Consider using wrist and ankle cuffs instead of ropes. Being stretched is fine but not too tightly because you are literally stretching a person's internal muscles - there is a reason stretching was used as a medieval torture devise that actually killed a people. When the muscles are stretched too tightly it restricts proper , blood flow, alters blood pressure, effects the nerves, and overworks the muscles.
Suspension: Use the same precautions as stretching (above) but I recommend leather or lined cuffs instead of ropes, tethers, or chains at the ankles and wrists. Don't hang a person upside-down for long periods and never leave them unattended upside-down.
Handcuffs: A beautiful but potentially dangerous toy. They can easily become to tight. Make sure you set the stop so they can not tighten. Improperly used they can lead to permanent nerve damage. Another thing to remember is that if a person falls while in hand cuffs it is very easy for them to break a wrist or get hurt more in the fall.
TWO keys: Always make sure you have two keys for all handcuffs and locks. Select a place where you always keep the spare key that is labeled. Make sure the sub knows where this place is -many like to place the keys within reach of the sub, just in case something happens since neither one of you probably want the ambulance or fire truck to show up when you are stuck in the middle of a session.
Hoods: Most of the body's heat escapes from the head. If you have the bottom wearing a hood they will become very warm with possible heat exhaustion. Breathing is also very important. Make sure you ask often that the bottom can breath correctly.
Gags: When using any gag, be sure you can remove it quickly. Use extreme caution if using a gag when the person's head is upside-down. It is very easy to choke so consider using a gag with snaps or Velcro instead of buckles. Because it is so easy to choke while gagged, never ever leave a bottom gagged and unattended.
SEX: Yes, many of us include sex in BDSM. AS with all sexual practices be safe! Use condoms, spermicidal gels, plastic wrap, etc.... be aware of all your sexual partners and your partner's sexual practices. Keep an honest and open line of communication. Get tested.
Body Fluids: There are many many ways you will come in contact with body fluids not including sex. This is why it is very important that you and your partner practice safe sex.
Toys and tools: Clean everything after it is used, apply an sterilizing washing fluid or a sanitizing soap and rinse very very well then finish with an extremely hot rinse. Some things may not be able to be cleaned so well. In this case make sure that you only use the item on a single person. Label the item with that person's name in some way. I always make my slaves but tools and toys for use on them - and only them. Jane's dildoe in never in John's ass. A condom over a toy helps but I see some items as being very very personal and would prefer to keep them for solitary use on one person. Make sure the items are clean and dry before storing in a clean environment.
Cuts, bruises and muscle soreness: Well, yes this happens! Remember that the sub has to have time to recoup. Let wounds and bruises heal completely before another heavy session. Be sure to check out the Herbal Remedy information on this site for some helpful hints. The healing bath is great!
AND YOU (AND YOUR PARTNER)
WON'T BE SORRY!
Stages in the Development of Erotic Power Exchange ~ Poems ~ Agreement of Service ~ Back to the Dungeon Entrance ~ E-mail ~ Art Gallery ~ BDSM Basics ~ A Checklist for Submissives ~ Suggestions for Dominants ~ Rules for Submissives ~ A Beginners Guide to Dominance and Submission ~ Safety Rules for First Meetings ~ BDSM Jokes ~ BDSM Physical Safety Tips ~ Sensual Spanking ~ The Nine Levels of Submission ~ Advice for Dominants ~ Back to Page Two ~