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Do you feel different?

pervert is defined by Webster's Ninth New Collegiate Dictionary as: "(noun) one that has been been perverted; specifically: one given to some form of sexual perversion"

perversion is defined as: "(noun) 2. a perverted form; especially: an aberrant sexual practice especially when habitual and preferred to normal coitus"

aberrant is defined as: "(adj) 2. deviating from the usual or natural type: atypical"

Perverts are people, too - who's to say what's "normal" and what's not, anyway?

Look around - in most relationships, one partner is often more dominant and the other more submissive in various areas. One might make all of the household or financial decisions, for instance. One is usually more sexually dominant than the other. Usually people "fall into" those roles with each other based on their personalities and the chemistry of the relationship. Non-consensual D/s is common. The non-consensual dominant often feels too much responsibility is expected of them and the non-consensual submissive often feels overlooked and unimportant.

Non-consensual D/s in its worst form is abuse.

Non-consensual BDSM in its worst form is domestic violence.

In a consensual D/s or BDSM relationship, the roles are clearly defined and agreed upon by both partners in advance. Trust, communication, and flexibility are key ingredients. The results can be extremely rewarding to both partners, and can increase each person's self-esteem and respect for each other, and enhance the intimacy between them.

A dominant is not a tyrant.

A submissive is not a doormat.

The only rule that should apply to everyone is SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual.

Find out what's important to you and to your partner, and talk it over with each other. Explore and experiment. Find out what works for you.