| Here is something important to remember and understand. (I always hear an argument whenever I speak about it, but here it is.) You are the number 1 most important person in your life. HOLD IT! I know those who are down on themselves, depressed, feel they are the last ones in the world they would consider, in fact they feel just the opposite. Then there are those who feel their children, family or ? comes first, and that they would die willingly if it meant saving that person. that is NOT what I am talking about. I feel the same way about my family. I mean it in THIS way: When you are truly as happy inside as you can be, when you have helped care for yourself and any problems you may have, when you realize all happiness will NOT come from having to depend on it from someone else in your life, when you are alone and feel good about yourself, when you see it is not selfish but SELFLESS to be the best person you can because then and only then can you truly give to others as they give to you, not be dependent on anyone or anything, know what it is that you truly want in life and in a relationship. If you are ill either physicallly or mentally,or caring for someone that is, get the best help you can, and try each day to find the positive. Whatever it may be. When you are happy, then your whole attitude changes. Little, special moments can sometimes be the most memorable, the most meaningful. We all feel we need something big to happen in our lives for it to mean anything, this is simply not true. If it does, fine, in the meantime, we live each and every day,we truly want to want to feel better, and it isn't always easy. Look for those simple things that can mean so much. Think about the good in your life right now, even if all you have is the someone in the weblog community who listens and replies to you. Take the time to focus on priorities. The number one priority is YOU. Then. you focus on your family, whatever. If you are in the rat race, slow down, take moment,a deep breath,look up at the sky, or the trees, think about your life objectively. We are here for such a short time as it is. We must try to make the most of it and be as happy for ourselves and our loved ones as we can. Remember, yesterday is gone forever, we have today, we have tomorrow (although it is not promised)and each day that passes there is one less tomorrow. So decide that you are going to be a changed person, you WILL get help of you need it, you WILL recognize that if you feel better about yourself, others around you will benefit. You will come to understand more about yourself and what you want in life. You will find wach day easier to handle. I know this because I have felt the lowest of lows and the highest of highs, I have felt hopeless-hating my life. I still struggle withthose feelings.I also have chronic pain. My children get me through because I want to be there for them. My whole family including my children are my support group even if sometimes they do not understand me. That does not matter anymore. I now feel it is more important that they care. I will make sure I continue to get any help I need. So you see, I do understand. There is so much more I could tell you,and I will get to it eventually I am sure.please leave comments if you wish. |
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| THOUGHTS--CHILDREN-CHILDREN- ILLLNESS-QUOTES |
CHALLENGES: WE FACE THEM EVERYDAY: FOR EACH OF US THEY VARY IN THEIR INTENSITY. MANY HAVE DIFFERENT THOUGHTS ON CHALLENGES. SOME BELIEVE THEY ARE 'TESTS' FOR US, OTHERS BELIEVE IT IS SIMPLY BAD LUCK, PART OF LIFE, AND EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN. NO MATTER, THEY ARE THERE AND HAVE TO BE DEALT WITH. MANY PEOPLE CAN HANDLE THESE CHALLENGES AND GO ON WITH 'LIFE AS USUAL' BUT THOSE WHO HAVE A MORE DIFFICULT TIME, PERHAPS CHRONIC ILLNESS OR A FAMILY MEMBER WITH ONE- NEED SUPPORT, AND OCCASIONAL RESPITE FROM THE STRESS OF DEALING WITH IT. ACCEPTING OUR 'CHALLENGE' IS THE FIRST STEP. ONCE ALL AVENUES HAVE BEEN EXHAUSTED AND YOU HAVE TRIED (AND CONTINUE TO TRY) TO FIND HELP, YOU LOOK OBJECTIVELY AT YOUR SITUATION AND SEE WHAT YOU CAN AND CANNOT HANDLE. THEN YOU MAKE A PLAN. HOW CAN I FIND HELP IN DEALING WITH THIS? WHO CAN HELP ME? IF YOU HAVE NO ONE, LOOK ON THE NET, IF NO COMPUTER, IN THE YELLLOW PAGES, YOU WOULD BE SURPRISED HOW MANY SUPPORT AND STATE RUN GROUPS THERE ARE, CALL ONE AND EXPLAIN WHAT YOU NEED, KEEP CALLING UNTIL YOU HIT THE RIGHT ONE. SOMETIMES WE NEED A THERAPIST TO HELP US EMOTIONALLY. THERE ARE WEB-BASED SUPPORT GROUPS AS WELL. THE ATTITUDE WE CARRY IS SO IMPORTANT THAT WHAT EVER IT TAKES TO GET IT IS WORTH TRYING FOR. WE HAVE THE REST OF OUR LIVES TO LIVE. WHY NOT LIVE THEM AS HAPPILY AS POSSIBLE. EVERY LITTLE JOY SHOULD BE TREASURED, REMEMBERED, AND HELP US TO FOCUS ON WHAT IS REAL IN LIFE, WHAT IS TRUE. (MORE TO COME)... |
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| IT'S A SPINNING WORLS WE LIVE IN, IT KEEPS SPINNING BY AND BY- EACH DAY IT SPINS AROUND US- AS WE FIGHT ON TO SURVIVE- IT'S LIKE A MOVING CAROUSEL IT FRIGHTENS AND ENTICES- WE REACH FOR THE SHINY GOLDEN RING - THE ONE THEY SAID WAS THERE- WE TRY OUR BEST TO CATCH IT- BUT WE GIVE UP IN DESPAIR- BUT DO NOT FRET MY DEAR ONE BECAUSE THIS RING WE SEEK HAS BEEN INSIDE US ALL THE TIME- AND FROM IT JOY WE'LL REAP WE ONLY NEED TO FIND IT, IT'S BURIED DEEP WITHIN- JUST KNOW IT'S THERE SOMEWHERE JUST WAITING- AND WHEN WE COME TO FIND IT- AT LAST THE GAME WE WIN |
| I AM A SINGLE MOTHER, I WRITE A PERSONAL JOURNAL, POEMS, AND CHILDREN'S STORIES. I ALSO WRITE ABOUT HEALTH, STRESS DISABILITIES, CHALLENGES FOR BOTH ADULTS AND CHILDREN. I LIVE IN NEW JERSEY, AND FROM WHERE I LIVE I CAN SEE THE INCREDIBLE NEW YORK CITY SKYLINE WITH IT'S GIANT SKYSCRAPERS ( SOME OF WHICH WERE BUILT BY MY fATHER) WHEN THE SUN SETS, IT HITS THE WINDOWS OF THESE HUGE BUILDINGS AND THEY LIGHT UP IN A BLAZE OF BRIGHT YELLOW/ ORANGE. THEN, AT NIGHT THE LIGHTS IN THE BUILDINGS TURN ON AND THEY REFLECT DOWN UPON THE HUDSON RIVER AND MAKE IT SPARKLE LIKE SOFT FIRE WORKS ON THE WATER. IT IS STUNNING, AND IT LOOKS JUST LIKE A POSTCARD, ONLY BETTER. TO LOOK AT THIS VIEW, ONE COULD NEVER REALIZE UNLESS THEY HAVE BEEN THERE, THE CROWDS OF PEOPLE, THAT RUSH TO AND FRO, THE NON STOP LIFE THAT CONTINUES DAY AND NIGHT. LIKE LITTLE ANTS RACING TO BUILD THERE HILL, LIKE SQUIRRELS RAPIDLY COLLECTING THERE FOOD TO PUT AWAY FOR WINTER. THE BUSES, TRAINS, FERRIES AND CABS- ALL FULL MORNING AND EVENING TO HURRY PEOPLE TO WORK AND THEN HOME AGAIN ONLY TO WAKE UP AND FACE ANOTHER DAY. IT IS SO IMPORTANT THAT THEY TAKE THE TIME TO SEE WHAT BEAUTY THERE IS TO FIND AROUND THEM AND THEN STOP, TAKE A DEEP BREATH, SIT A MOMENT AND REFLECT ABOUT WHAT IS TRULY MOST INPORTANT IN THEIR LIVES, THEN CLEAR YOUR MIND FOR A MOMENT AND LOOK AT THE SKY OR A TREE OR THINK OF A PLACE THAT CALMS YOU OR BRINGS SOOTHING AND HAPPY MEMORIES. THIS IS I FEEL, IS EXTREMELY HELPFUL TO BREAK UP STRESS, AND STRESS IS SOMETHING WE ALL LIVE WITH EVERYDAY. YET IT IS SOMETHING THAT WE NEED TO TRY TO DEAL WITH AND LEARN HOW TO KEEP IT FROM OVER WHELMING US, SOMETIMES WITHOUT OUR EVEN BEING AWARE OF IT, WE ARE OVER COME WITH IT AND IT CAN SHOW ITSELF IN WAYS WE MAY NOT EVEN REALIZE- SUCH AS HEALTH PEOBLEMS, EMOTIONAL TROUBLES WHICH CAN LEAD TO RELATIONSHIP/FAMILY PROBLEMS, WORK RELATED PROBLEMS OR WORSE. .... . .quote for the moment: Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart…. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.-Carl Jung . |
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| Call your health insurance, or better yet, the Dept. of Disabilities in your state to see if they have respite care. Perhaps friends or relatives can take turns. Someone who will give you time 'off' so you can keep your own mental and physical health strong by rejuvenation, via a walk, some shopping, attending a hobby or meeting with friends. You can return with a renewed strength. It isn't easy caring for an ill loved one, you need all the help you can get and the right attitude. With some positive thought, and adding 'fun' into your and your loved ones's life, things may be a bit easier. |
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CHILDREN ARE A GIFT TO HOLD; THEIR INNOCENCE AND HEARTS BEHOLD, A TALE THEY TELL FOR ALL TO SEE; LOOK DEEP INSIDE YOUR MEMORY - FIND THAT CHILD INSIDE OF YOU AND SEE WHAT IT CAN DO FOR YOU- THE WONDER IN THE WORLD YOU'LL SEE, THROUGH EYES THAT FIND THE GOOD THAT BE- THE JOY AND WONDER OF THE DAY THE MERRIMENT OF LIFE'S DISPLAY |
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| 1/28/05 HERE IS A REMINDER OF HOW VERY SHORT LIFE IS- THIS MORNING, IN NYC, A YOUNG GIRL, AN ASPIRING TALENTED ACTRESS WAS SHOT IN THE CHEST ON HER WAY HOME. SHE DIED IN HER BOYFIREND'S ARMS. MY SON KNEW HER WELL AND THEY WERE FRIENDS, HE HAD JUST BEEN WITH HER 2 DAYS BEFORE. THIS STANDS AS A REMINDER HOW VERY SHORT LIFE CAN BE AND HOW WE NEVER KNOW WHAT LIES AHEAD. KEEP THAT THOUGHT AS YOU SORT YOUR PRIORITIES, AND TRY LIVING AND ACHEIVING AS IF TOMORROW IS A GIFT AND NOT A 'GIVEN' LEE |
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