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IT IS NOT WHAT ACTUALLY 'HAPPENS TO US, BUT HOW WE CHOOSE' TO REACT TO 'IT' OR THINK AND 'PERCIEVE' IT THAT CREATES THE FEELINGS THAT WE HAVE ABOUT THAT SITUATION. ONCE WE REALIZE WE HAVE A CHOICE AND THE POWER TO 'DECIDE 'HOWTO 'THINK' OR 'PERCIEVE ' A SITUATION, WE WILL GAIN INNER STRENGTH, AND POWER WHICH COULD LEAD TO SELF WORTH, UNDERSTANDING AND SELF ACCEPTANCE . REMEMBER BACK WHEN YOU WE WERE CHILDREN- OUR THOUGHTS
AND FEELINGS ABOUT LIFE WERE OUR OWN. AS ADULTS, WE SOMETIMES CHANGE OUR 'TRUE' SELF, AND FORM OUR THINKING AND PERSONALITY ON EXTERNAL FACTORS. THE DEMANDS OF ADULT RESPONSIBILITY WITH IT'S 'FIRST TIME' SITUATONS WE MUST CONFRONT. ie?; COLLEGE, NEW JOB, RELATIONSHIPS, FAMILY, MARRIAGE,, ETC.... ARE EXPERIENCES WHICH GIVE US STRESSES THAT WE HAVE NEVER 'LEARNED HOW TO DEAL WITH . HOW COULD WE? WE ONLY HAVE WHAT WAS TAUGHT TO US AS CHILDREN, AND EXPERIENCES WE HAD THEN TO GUIDE US. .. MIND YOU, MANY CHILDREN GO THROUGH TREMENDOUS ORDEALS WHICH FORCE THEM TO CONFRONT EXTREME STRESS. THEY MAY LEARN COPING TECHNIQUES OR NOT. ONCE AN ADULT,THEY MAY CARRY THESE MEMORIES AND THOUGHTS' WITH THEM INTO ADULTHOOD, WHICH MAKES IT EVEN MORE DIFFICULT. OUR 'TRUE' SELVES' TENDS TO GET LOST IN THE SHUFFLE AND ADJUSTMENT TO ADULTHOOD. WE NEED TO FIND THAT PERSON ONCE AGAIN, AND NOT 'THINK' "OH I WAS JUST A KID AND THAT THINKING IS NO LONGER RELEVANT. INSTEAD, THINK "WHAT WAS I LIKE? HOW DID 'I' FEEL ABOUT THINGS, THAT WOULD AND SHOULD STILL PLAY AN IMPORTANT PART OF 'ME' TODAY"? WE SOMETIMES LET OTHERS 'MOLD' US BECAUSE OF PEERS, TV, MEDIA, ETC..ALL THE 'THINGS' THEY SHOW AS THE IDEAL LIFE, LOOK, ETC.... THINK ABOUT THEM- AND THE FEARFULL THOUGHTS THAT CAME AS WELL- THEN 'SAY' TO OURSELVES,, WHAT AM I HOLDING ON TO THAT IS TOTALLY IRRELEVANT NOW? WHAT HAVE I HELD THAT IS MEANINGLESS YET CONTINUES TO BE A PART IN HOW I FEEL NOW? ONCE LOOKED AT RATONALLY, YOU MAY ACTUALLY BE ABLE TO LAUGH AT THEM, AND LET THOSE FEARS GO. ONCE YOU 'SEE' THEM FOR WHAT THEY REALLY ARE, THEN THE 'GOOD' AND POSITIVE THOUGHTS YOU HAD, YOU HOLD ON TO, AND LET THEM PLAY A POSITIVE ROLE IN YOUR LIFE . (EXAMPLE: "THOSE KIDS , OR THAT SUBJECT,, OR MY PARENTS ETC.., WHAT ARE THEY DOING IN MY MIND NOW? THEY NO LONGER HAVE ANY REASON OR 'RIGHT' TO EVEN BE A PART OF ME NOW AS AN ADULT. LOOK INTO THAT PAST, SEE IT RATIONALLY AND PUT IT IN IT'S PROPER PROSPECTIVE- IN THE TRASH!!!!!! Realize you can look objectively at life starting now, and find your 'true' self, with that- strength and control will be yours, and you will be 'free'-the person you were meant to be. 'Think about it.
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Advice in my opinion-please take it as such. * P/L |
