A Grandparent's Grief The death of your grandchild is like a double edged sword. You grieve for the death of a baby whom you cherished; a baby whom you had hopes and dreams for. But you also grieve the death of your own child, the baby's mother or father. For the baby's parents died with the baby. Not physically, but figuratively. Your own flesh and blood, the person whom you once knew your child to be, will never be again. Your child has been transformed in a moment of time into a new person. An overwhelming grief has touched their lives. It is a time of confusion, anger and frustration for many grandparents. Offer your unconditional love and support. Go to support group meetings with your child and go to a grandparents group for yourselves. Remember your grandchild on special occasions such as his or her birthday/death day, Christmas and Easter. Send your child a Mother's Day or Father's Day card reminding them that they are still the parents of the precious child, always loved but now lost. Share their pain with them, even years later. It will surely create an even deeper bond of love, appreciation and fortitude withstanding the passing of time and circumstances. In Peace and Memory of our Beloved Children... Understanding Grief...When a Grandchild Dies We Remember Our Sunshine Boy This page is dedicated to Aaron Lee Farrier. With all our love, Mommy and Grandma Ellis...

Mama's Crying
Mama's crying
And I can't stop the pain
Can't whisper softly
Everything's gonna be ok
Words of wisdom and my kisses
Won't take these tears away
Mama's crying...Mama's crying
And I can't stop the pain

They say time heals the broken heart
A little more each day
And seasons hold the memories
We'll smile upon someday
But her pain right now is deeper
Than her faith in God and Church
And as I hold my baby in my arms
We both grieve for hers

Summer's ending
Autumn stumbles into place
Anger and frustration
Toss and turn our every day
Mama's crying...Mama's crying
And I can't stop the pain
It's gonna be a long cold winter
Spring's a long long ways away

They say time heals the broken heart
A little more each day
And with every new tomorrow
Sorrow slowly fades
The heartache that she's feeling
No one else can take away
But I'll be right beside her
Each baby step she takes

Mama's crying
And I can't stop the pain
I can tell her that I love her
Help her through each grueling day
But I can't make it better
Like I could in younger days
Mama's crying...Mama's crying
Cause I can't stop the pain

Mama's crying...Mama's crying
But I can't stop the pain
For only time can dry her eyes
And help us smile again...
© 1997 Roslyn Ellis

He Never Knew
A flicker of sunlight
One moment in time
From May to September
One blink of an eye
Lullabies silent
Questions of why
Searching for answers
I know I won't find

But I'll find some comfort
Knowing Aaron knew love
And I'm glad there are things
He never knew of...

He never knew hunger
He never knew pain
He never knew violence
Some children face
He never knew bigotry
Color of skin
He never knew hatred or sin
And I find some comfort in this

He never knew anger
Never knew war
He never knew poverty
Outside his door
He never knew loneliness
Some must endure
He never knew these things exist
And I find some comfort in this

A flicker of sunlight
In a Grandmother's eyes
Tears are still falling
And will for some time
For there are some things
I wish that he knew
Taken for granted
By both me and you

But I'll find some comfort
In this heart that he touched..
For there's one thing I'm sure of
I know he knew LOVE......
© 1997 Roslyn Ellis