BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM WORKSHOP

SESSION1, PART 2

 

·        WHAT DOES THE BABY KNOW WHEN IT IS BORN ? (FEAR: OF FALLING, LOUD NOISE.) Ask yourself does any of the experiences 2 through 7 apply to me? Each diminishes ones self-esteem.

 

  (o o)            1.Except for the pre-wiring, the infant's data base is nearly empty- soaks up everything. (sponge)      

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o-----o           2.Got impression was not wanted, a mistake. I SAW IT HOW?     

     }                  Felt demeaned and put down ?                                 

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     }       o       3. Could not live up to EXPECTATIONS; often criticized.   

    / >     -}-                  Not allowed to make mistakes.         

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  <                    4. Learned to equate who I am with what I do.

                       

                        5. Lived in brother/sister shadow

                                    + Got Idea could not measure up.

 

                        6. Guilt and shame used to control behavior.               

 

                        7. Got pushed beyond capacity as a child, failed often.   

 

8. Babies are the great imitators, yearn to do what the older ones do & parrot                                                                                                                                                                                    what elders do. Baby sees, baby do. (Why would a baby want to pick up a hot pot on the stove ? )

 

                        9. What adults and older ones do is all that babies  know !!!

 

·        THE IMPACT OF THE MOTHER CANNOT BE OVER STRESSED.  Months old babies recognize their mother.

 

·        NOR THE IMPACT OF THE FATHER

 

 

§         Click on  "Childhood Insults..."

 

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v     MOST CRITICAL: When the S-I is formed:   FROM THE 2ND TRIMESTER TO THE AGE OF 3 (90% of brain growth by age 3.) & HOW I INTERPRETED ON WHAT WAS SAID AND DONE. EXAMPLE: CROSSING THE STREET - DANGER ! (Babies do not understand traffic !!)

 

·        "At birth, the infants brain has 100 billion nerve cells, or neurons. These neurons will grow and connect with other neurons in system that various functions like seeing, moving, and expressing emotion. These systems, activated by repeated experiences, provide the foundation for the brain's organization and functioning throughout life. The absence of appropriate activation results in the lack of development or the disappearance of these connections."

 

     "The brain is the part of the body that allows us to feel joy or despair, to respond to others in a loving or        angry way, to use reason or simply react. These capacities don't just magically appear - they result from the             interplay between a child's heredity and the experiences he or she has during childhood."

 

"WHY SHOULD PARENTS AND CAREGIVERS KNOW ABOUT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT ?"

 

      At birth, the brain is remarkably unfinished. The parts of the brain that handle thinking, as well as emotional   responses.      ( This will be in a hand out given at Session #3.)

 

·        MORE AND MORE RESEARCH SHOWS THE EARLIER EXPERIENCE HAS GREATER IMPACT !!  Rob Reiner foundation: "I Am Your Child." The new brain research and your child's healthy development: "The first years last forever." How and how much the brain is stimulated in the early years lasts a lifetime ! Massaging the baby impacts brain development, child's IQ and personality.  But it’s not teaching calculus at age 6 months.

 

·        News article read on brain cell growth: At birth have more brain cells than needed & many not used are discarded.  This happens again about age nine; then portions of the brain thickens with the peak in the ages 9 - 11 for boys and 9 - 12 for girls. It also pointed out that the biological changes during this period changes the way the brain is wired.

 

·        There are "Windows" of learning: To become a concert violinist must start learning by age 12.

            There is a window for learning a language without an accent.       

 

v     Per Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.

 

We know exactly: How to Raise a Bully: pg. 196-197

 

§         Inept parenting leads to aggressive children in grade school, same as parents had been.

 

§         Parents (true whether mother or father) disciplined with arbitrary relentless severity; and repeated the pattern. Offered a vivid and violent example.  Punished severely otherwise showed little attention. Disciplined depending upon the mood they were in. This a recipe for feelings of worthlessness and helplessness, threats are everywhere and may strike at any time.

 

 

BUT: pg 199 - SEEING HOW THE BRAIN IS SHAPED BY BRUTALITY OR BY LOVE SUGGESTS

THAT CHILDHOOD PRESENTS A SPECIAL WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY FOR EMOTIONAL

LESSONS. PERHAPS THE MOST INSTRUCTIVE PARADIGM FOR UNDERSTANDING THE

EMOTIONAL LEARNING OF SUCH ABUSED CHILDREN HAVE UNDERGONE, IS SEEING HOW

TRAUMA CAN HAVE A LASTING IMPRINT ON THE BRAIN .

 

Ø      AND ( or but) EVEN THESE SAVAGE IMPRINTS CAN BE MENDED. Click on EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE below then on "Download Reports" to learn more.

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·        PUT ON BOARD: Through REPETITION ----->a HABIT is formed------> we then DO, FEEL it UNCONSCIOUSLY -----> & it becomes a BELIEF

      That's  how the brain works, a very valuable asset and benefit to us when used to our advantage.

      The more times a brain neuron path or pattern is used, the easier to use next time !

 

      EVERY THOUGHT, FEELING & ACTION HAS A SPECIFIC BRAIN PATTERN !        

 

      Remember the example of the flea put in a jar with a  lid. It soon learn it could not jump out and never       even tried after the lid was taken off. The same way an elephant is trained with the chain around the foot       when too young to have the strength to pull away.

 

·        REMEMBER WE ARE UNABLE TO CRITICALLY EXAMINE AND ANALYZE UNTIL ABOUT AGE 13 YRS OLD. THAT PART OF THE BRAIN IS SIMPLY NOT DEVELOPED YET !!!!!!!

     - CAN'T DISTINGUISH FANTASY FROM REALITY !! MISINTERPRET ?

§         That is why children should not be tried as adults.  Brain development has not been accomplished to where they can make sound decisions.

 

READ:-WE ARE STILL CARRYING THOSE EARLY IMPRESSIONS AND STILL THINK THEY ARE TRUE EVEN THOUGH THEY AREN'T. WE HAVE BEEN PROGRAMMED AND WE STILL RUN THOSE TAPES. UNLESS WE HAVE CONSCIOUSLY CHOSEN TO REPROGRAM AND CHANGE.

 

·        MOST IMPRESSIONS WERE LEARNED NON-VERBALLY AND THEY WENT INTO THE SUB-CONSCIOUS WITHOUT EVALUATION. ACCEPTED AS REAL AND TRUE.

            - It's a frown, a stern look, or a look of exasperation !

 

§         YOU SEE, THE VERY SAME THING HAPPENED TO YOUR PARENTS !!!!!!!

               (Only mistake - Not aware or not knowing how to extricate themselves.)

 

So there is:        NO BLAME !

 

§         This is hard to get & understand because the feelings are so strong but still true.

 

ð     PARENTS ARE NOT TO BLAME,  PARENTS DID THE BEST THEY COULD.

 

§         If they (we) could have done better they (we) would have.

 

ð     STAY HOOKED ON BLAME AND YOU'LL NEVER MOVE ON TO A SOLUTION.

 

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GET THIS :

EVERY PERSON DOES THE BEST HE/SHE CAN WITH THE INFORMATION & EXPERIENCE HE/SHE HAS. S/he MADE THE VERY BEST CHOICES THAT s/he COULD !!!!!

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·        DO YOU NOT DO THE VERY BEST YOU CAN IN EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE ???

 

·        WE HAVE A SAY IN OUR RESPONSE TO EVERY SITUATION AND TO FEEL THE WAY WE DO.   IT IS OUR RESPONSE !!

 

·        WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT ? MAKE A DIFFERENT CHOICE.

 

§         CHANGE YOUR INFORMATION, WHAT YOU KNOW !!!  THEN MAKE A DIFFERENT CHOICE.

 

 

 

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YOUR PARENTS WERE YOUR CARETAKERS, YOUR WAYSHOWERS. THAT CANNOT BE CHANGED.

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·        WHAT HAPPENED CANNOT BE CHANGED.

 

·        BUT, YOUR RESPONSE TO IT,  - YOUR INTERPRETATION CAN BE CHANGED. 

 

§         I said: “I’ll be damned if I’ll let them determine the outcome of my life !

 

 

·        PRESENT A  PICTURE OF PERSON

 

 

   -                    o YOUR CORE SELF OF INTRINSIC VALUE

 ((o))                            CREATIVE, LOVING, SECURE

   -                                SPARKLE ONE SEES IN BABY

                                    THAT WHICH WE RECOGNIZE AS MARVELOUS.

 

         ))  PRETENSES - ACTS - ABERRATIONS - IDIOSYNCRASIES. Not allowed to be youurself.

PRETEND TO LOVE THE ABUSER, SMILE - GET ON THE GOOD SIDE OF IN ORDER TO SURVIVE. ( Babies actually love their parents, are bonded to them ! Like duck & rock.)

           ) PERCEPTIONS - IMPRESSIONS/INTERPRETATIONS - (How accurate ? Based on experiences.)

           ( DENIAL - CHOOSE TO NOT FEEL THE  DEEP HURT.  Can’t fight, I’m too little. Can’t run.

           (( DEFENSES - PROTECTIVE SHIELDS - Hurts leave sore spots. Don’t touch or I’ll fight.

 

·        THAT'S THE EGO'S JOB - SURVIVAL !!! BE THANKFUL YOU HAVE IT. YOU ARE HERE, STILL ALIVE !!! WE ARE ALL SURVIVORS !

 

            ((o)) <--> ((o)) We talk to each other’s pretended selves; emotional stack !

 

v     PASS OUT THE HAND OUT “SELF MATTERS”  by Dr. Phillip McGraw. THE BEST BOOK ON REDISCOVERING YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF I’VE SEEN SINCE DOING THIS WORKSHOP.  I PLAN TO GO THROUGH DR. McGRAW’S PROCESS.

   Dr. McGraw has developed a series of key questions and what he calls an amazingly clear "map" to begin your journey to "Live by Design". What I call "Taking charge of your Life." These are questions that, with the help of the book, you can answer and bring into action-oriented focus:

* What are the ten most defining moments of your life?

* What are the seven most critical choices you have made to put you on your current path?

*  Who are the five most pivotal people in your world and how have they shaped you?

   It is through identifying and working with these key elements that Dr. Phillip C. McGraw's latest book, Self Matters, will be at the heart of your own new work:  you.

 

Click on SELF  MATTERS below for more information. Use the back arrow to return.

 

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·        HOW MUCH OF YOUR INNER SELF DO YOU REVEAL ??  DO YOU BEHAVE THE SAME AT HOME AS OUTSIDE THE HOME ?

 

** GIVE EXAMPLE : IF OPEN UP BECOME VULNERABLE. IF EXPOSE WEAKNESSES FIND THOSE THAT MUST STRIKE OUT AND HURT YOU. Give them a chance, they'll hurt you. Chance to get even.   WHY ?   THEY SEE THEMSELVES & HATE IT - CAN'T STAND IT !!

            NOT LEARNED EMPATHY !!

 

 

Þ    FIRST STEP: TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE !!!              *****TAKE CHARGE !! *******

 

* WE CAN CHANGE OUR SELF IMAGE IF WE DECIDE TO BECOME AWARE AND TAKE CHARGE OF HOW WE FEEL. HOW WE FEEL ABOUT/SEE OURSELVES. HOW WE FEEL IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS IS IMPORTANT. HOW WE DEAL WITH THOSE FEELING IS CRITICAL.

 

¨      FEELINGS PLAY A MAJOR PART IN OUR LIVES !!  (EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE)

 

            ====> Involved in every logical decision we make !  Daniel Golerman<====

 

§         MOST OF US ARE TAUGHT THAT FEELINGS HAVE POWER OVER US.

    Its just how I feel ! How I feel about myself is set, can't change.

 

v     WHERE DO WE START  - IF WE WANT TO DEVELOP OUR POTENTIAL  ?

 

·        FIRST IS TO LEARN TO TAKE CHARGE OF MY EMOTIONS - HEARD OF COUNTING TO 10?  An old saying that holds true - Allows time for the rational mind to come into play.

 

·        MAKE THIS POINT: WE HAVE AUTOMATIC RESPONSES.

 

·        OUR FEELINGS ARE OUR RESPONSE TO THINGS THAT HAPPEN & THROUGH REPETITION BECOME AN AUTOMATIC RESPONSE. OUR BUTTON GETS PUSHED AND OUR VCR IS TURNED ON AND WE HAVE A TAPE TO RUN; The automatic response  !!

 

·        THINGS HAVE HAPPENED IN OUR LIVES THAT HAVE EVOKED STRONG FEELINGS. SOME OF THESE ARE ON THE SURFACE MOST ALL OF THE TIME. OTHERS WERE JUST TOO MUCH TO DEAL WITH SO WE HAVE PUT THEM ASIDE IN THE SUB-CONSCIOUS. THAT'S A SURVIVAL MECHANISM.

 

§         WE NEED TO LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH ALL OF THESE FEELINGS.

 

·        Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman: The purpose of the Amygdala --> immediate survival mechanism 1st, then examine rationally.  To learn how the the amygdala functions click on AMYGDALAS below.

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·        THOSE FEELINGS INVOLVED WITH SURVIVAL REQUIRES PERSISTENT DILIGENCE TO CHANGE !!

           

§         Example: Mike Tyson often seems to act in ways that is not in his best interest. It was suggested that the  link between his Amygdala and his rational mind is damaged.

 

v      I/E      VS       E/I   Intellect over the Emotions vs Emotions over the Intellect.

 

ð     THE 2ND STEP IN PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT) I/E VS E/I ........DEALING WITH OUR FEELINGS

 

* NEED TO START BY PRACTICING PUTTING THE I/E, that is stop & think, BEFORE WE ACT. E/I = REACT. TO PRACTICE THE 4 STEPS FOR DEALING WITH FEELINGS:

****** WE NEED TO EXPERIENCE THAT WE HAVE POWER OVER OUR RESPONSE TO THINGS. WE CAN CHANGE OUR AUTOMATIC RESPONSE TO A DIFFERENT ONE. DON'T EXPECT IT TO HAPPEN OVER NIGHT, BUT "IT WILL HAPPEN". The automatic response can be reprogrammed !

 

 

v     HERE'S HOW !!!  PASS OUT 4-STEPS .  Click on 4 STEPS below to see the handout.

 

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     1. IDENTIFY FEELING. ALL FEELINGS ARE OK, NOT RIGHT OR WRONG !!!   IMPORTANT          TO NOT DENY AND SUPPRESS, OR IGNORE BUT TO INVESTIGATE.

       

§         FEEL ANGER IS BAD ? I WAS TAUGHT THAT TOO. IMPORTANT TO YOUR SURVIVAL.

 

§         ALL FEELINGS ARE OK !! ITS OUR RESPONSE:  VERBAL AND ACTIONS TO OUR FEELINGS  THAT CAN BE DESTRUCTIVE. BEHAVIOR CAN BE OK OR NOT OK.

 

MEN TEND TO HIDE THEIR FEELINGS. Show feelings: "Not a 'REAL' man." WOMEN TEND TO BE RULED BY THEM.

§         SOME FEELINGS HAVE A LOT OF ENERGY: ANGER, SCARED, EXCITED, SAD.             IF SUPPRESS WILL HAVE A BODY REACTION. THE BODY WILL SUFFER. i.e.          ULCERS !

 

§         THERE IS A BETTER ALTERNATIVE , USE THE 4 STEPS.

*        FEELINGS WILL COME UP WHEN YOU'RE READY TO HANDLE THEM. E/I = DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR.

 

     2.OWN IT-THEY ARE YOUR FEELINGS AND ARE ALL ARE OK.

 

§         FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT, THE MOTIVATORS IN LIFE. ITS WHEN WE LET THEM PUSH   US AROUND WHEN THEY ARE A PROBLEM.

 

§         NEED TO SAY "I FEEL ANGRY"  NOT "YOU MADE ME ANGRY". OR " THAT MADE ME ANGRY". I GET ANGRY WHEN YOU DO, SAY THAT.

 

§         ACCEPT - "THAT'S HOW I FEEL RIGHT NOW !" its OK feelings are not right or wrong; right or wrong comes from how one acts. ANGER IS A POSITIVE DESIRE TO CHANGE THINGS, a needed emotion.  GOT US TO WHERE WE ARE NOW - SURVIVAL

 

     3.TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE FEELING AND MY ACTIONS.

§         ITS MY RESPONSE AND MY ACTION. (You'll see why this is important when we discuss the Law of Cause and Effect.)

 

§         I CHOSE IT. (The feelings I have) I choose my response to every       situation ! If others can push my button then they control me, I'm like a robot. I TAKE        CHARGE OF MY FEELINGS OR THEY TAKE CHARGE OF ME, THEY CONTROL ME

    

4.RESOLVE TO DEAL WITH IT, WRITE IT DOWN.

 

§         GET A CLUE AS TO WHAT MAKES YOU FLIP. WHEN YOU GET THE SIGNAL - DON'T OPEN YOUR MOUTH. SAY "STAMP OUT FOOT IN MOUTH DISEASE."

 

§         I AM GOING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS !!

       a. Have a bad feeling ? Write it down, get it out of the your system. Don't let anyone see it.       Tear it up, flush it down the "John", or burn it. DIRECT THE ENERGY POSITIVELY.           HIT PILLOW, JOG. CRY !!

       b. Tell a trusted friend.

       c. Tape record, hide, listen to several days later, erase.

     

·        IF YOU DON'T DO STEP FOUR NOTHING WILL CHANGE !!!

 

ð     To see the feeling list CLICK on FEELING LIST  below

 

 

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¨       YOU ARE MASTER OF WHAT YOU OWN. IF YOU DISOWN THEM THEY WILL BE THE MASTER OVER YOU !! THEY WILL EAT YOUR LUNCH.

                   Dr. Phil: “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge”.

 

·        Its important to practice and follow the steps if you want some changes in your life. Practice doesn't       

            make perfect.   PRACTICE MAKES PERMANENT.

 

·        HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO CHANGE ?? IT DEPENDS ON THE SEVERENESS OF THE TRAUMA ? I HAVE MADE GREAT PROGRESS BUT SOME TIMES MY RAGE TAKES OVER.

 

Þ    OVERCOMING DESTRUCTIVE EMOTIONS                 3/19/03  4A-1

 

We humans are the supreme survivors and the dominant predator. These assets have allowed us to survive through the millennia and rule the planet. We have killed off most of the other animals and now seem to be bent on annihilating ourselves. No matter where we look around the world today we find hate, anger, revenge, killing and war.  Even here in the United States we are seeing more of these same problems with more killings per capita happening here than anywhere else in the world.  With the mass killings by teenagers we have received a wake-up call.

 

The time has come for us to include dealing with our emotions as a part of the regular school curriculum.

 

 To see the handout CLICK on OVERCOMING DESTRUCTIVE EMOTIONS below. For a treatise on Destructive Emotions by experts in the field, click on DESTRUCTIVE EMOTHIONS.

 

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·        What do you want ?

 

§         DO YOU WANT TO FEEL BAD OR TO FEEL GOOD ? TO BE A LOSER OR A WINNER ? GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT !!

 

§         AXIOM: IF EVER I AM TO BE MASTER OF MY OWN FATE, I MUST RECOGNIZE THAT I CHOSE TO BE WHERE I AM RIGHT NOW ?  Through a series of small choice ! !

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v     STATEMENT OF OWNERSHIP CARD  -  PASS OUT AND COVER

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·        MOST IMPORTANT REALIZATION !!

            If I become uptight, angry, or frustrated, I and I alone am generating these feelings.

            No one can make me uptight. No one can make me angry. No one can make me frustrated.

            I and I alone can do this.

            When I have taken the responsibility for these things, see them in their perspective, the child in me grows up.

 

  To see the hand out click on OWNERSHIP STATEMENT below

  Then to have the handout  to cut up to place on your mirror and in you bill fold or purse click on POCKET SIZE OWNERSHIP below.

 

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·        All here because want to make some changes and BUILD OUR SELF-ESTEEM.

      Remember the feelings are yours and they are OK. It's a waste of time to continue to feel sorry for yourself. To say of yourself "You poor thing!" says its not only OK to be a "poor thing" but its preferred and what I want to be. DON'T JUST FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR SELF, if you need support ask and go and get it. See the difference ? (Recognizing I've had a rough time of it is different.) NEED SUPPORT ? ASK FOR IT.

 

v     (STATEMENT OF CONFIDENTIALITY, ASK THAT WHAT YOU SAY WILL NOT LEAVE THIS ROOM.)

 

·        ASK EACH TO LOOK AT THE LIST OF FEELINGS, PICK OUT  A SMALL ONE THEY FEEL MOST OFTEN ONE THAT GIVES YOU A PROBLEM. DO YOU SEE HOW TO APPLY THE 4 STEPS TO THAT FEELING. STEP 1 ALREADY DONE, JUST NEED TO RECOGNIZE WHEN IT WILL COME UP. DISCUSS.  CHOOSE A POSITIVE ONE AND REINFORCE IT. WATCH FOR DIFFERENT FEELINGS AS THEY COME UP. LEARN TO BE AWARE OF WHAT YOU ARE FEELING. THEN YOU CAN GO TO MORE DIFFICULT PROBLEM FEELINGS.

Þ    PASS OUT “How Do You Feel Today” & ABC for children.

 

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v     COVER RESENTMENTS. HAVE NEGATIVE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ?  STAY AWAY FROM THEM FOR NOW !

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·        GIVE UP CONFLICTS: FOR THE TIME BEING, WHILE TAKING THIS WORKSHOP, MAKE EVERY EFFORT NOT TO GET INTO CONFLICT OR ARGUMENTS WITH YOUR SPOUSE, FRIENDS, OR ENEMIES. I WANT YOU TO SAVE YOUR ENERGIES FOR MAKING THE POSITIVE DECISIONS AND EFFORTS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE, FOREVER.

** TO HELP YOU DO THIS I WILL COVER SHELVING FOR HOW TO AVOID CONFLICT. SIMPLY DON'T ARGUE ! FOR NEXT 8 WEEKS KEEP YOUR ENERGY FOR POSITIVE THINGS ! WILL HANDLE THE NEGATIVE THINGS LATER.

 

·        SHELVING

            A. Resentments can get In Your Way

                 a. How to deal with person you resent or whom you are in conflict with.

                   1. Visualize that person to be up on a shelf.

                     a. If the person is particularly nasty make the shelf high close to ceiling and person must                         crouch down. Up there they can't hurt you.

                     b. One person's sister- visualized her at North pole,.... naked.

 

Þ    #1 CONSIDERATION:      PASS OUT  AND READ!!!

 

  1. READ THE DEFINITION OF SELF-ESTEEM YOU LIKE THE BEST SEVERAL TIMES. CHOOSE A TIME EACH DAY TO DO SO.

 

  2. CHECK YOURSELF ON WHEN A NEGATIVE EMOTION GET OUT OF CONTROL.  PRACTICE THE 4 STEPS. RESOLVE TO CHANGE IT !! YOU HAVE THE POWER TO DO SO !!

    THEN: CHOOSE A POSITIVE FEELING YOU HAVE AND REINFORCE IT !!!

 

  3. PUT THE STATEMENT OF OWNERSHIP ON YOUR REFRIGERATOR, ONE ON YOUR BATHROOM MIRROR, ONE IN YOUR PURSE OR BILL FOLD. READ IT EVERY TIME YOU SEE IT!

 

To print out the #1 Consideration, click on #1 CONSIDERATION  below

 

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To have a summary of Session 1 parts 1 & 2, click on SESSION #1 BASICS below.

 

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Þ    HAND OUT #1 BASICS TO TAKE HOME & READ + #1 HANDOUTS. ESPECIALLY “SELF MATTERS”

 

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NEXT TIME: WE WILL LOOK AT SOME OF THE POSITIVE STEPS YOU CAN TAKE TO BETTER APPRECIATE YOURSELF.

 

TO CONTINUE CLICK ON SESSION2.

 

SESSION 2

 

 

 

 

SESSION #1

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            [1]                 WORKSHOP SCHEDULE

            [2]         2.     DEFINITIONS OF SELF-ESTEEM

            [3]        2B    W.E.A.V.E. Handout, Self-Esteem   

            [5]        2C   ANOTHER DEFINITION

            [6]         2A.  EVIDENCE OF SLIPPED SELF-ESTEEM

            [7]         1A.  CHILDHOOD INSULTS HAUNT ADULTS

            [8]        1D    THE PERSEVERANCE OF ABRAHAM LINCOLN

            [9]        19c1 SELF MATTERS

            [10]      19C BASIS OF THE SELF-ESTEEM WORKSHOP

            [11]      SIGN UP SHEET TO PURCHASE

            [12]       4.     FOUR-STEP PROCEDURE, DEALING WITH FEELINGS

            [13]      4A-1 OVERCOMING DESTRUCTIVE EMOTIONS

            [14]       1.     LIST OF FEELINGS

            [15]       3A.  STATEMENTS OF OWNERSHIP

            [16]       3B.  STATEMENTS OF OWNERSHIP, (CUT-UP FOR POCKET SIZE)     
                                    & STATEMENTS OF OWNERSHIP CARD

            [17]       1B.  HOW DO YOU FEEL TODAY ?

            [18]       ABC FEELINGS (coloring Sheet for Children)           

            [19]      20        RECOMMENDED READING

            [20]      4A.  SESSION#1’ SELF-ESTEEM BASICS

            [21]      #1 CONSIDERATION

 

TO CONTINUE CLICK ON SESSION2.

 

SESSION 2