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Let me just warn you now that you probably already did most of these one time or another. Just don't do them again.
1. "I LIKE YOU."
So, you finally gathered up your strength and confidence enough to say...I like you? What's wrong with you man? That displays no sort of manliness, domination, success, confidence, etc. In fact, it does the opposite. So now you are the most repulsive person in the room. Smooth move. Seduce first, and then you can say those sweet things after you've been dating. Here's a better way to show a girl you like her: ASK HER OUT! Interest first, then affection. The words, "I love you," are a prize -something she has to work for.
2. GETTING PUSSY WHIPPED
Why take it? You are just training your girl to be a whiny brat. Say, "No." Let's practice. "No, I won't go." "No, I have too much to do." "No, it's out of my way." "No, I don't want to." Get the idea? YOU are the boss, and she will respect you if you never hand over your authority. Quit brown nosing, and start acting like a man. If she tries to flake out on you, don't put up with it, and just tell her you are gonna do something else without her.
Here is a quote from the "Seduction Science Report"...
"You know you’re pussy-whipped when you become falsely agreeable. When a man lacks a backbone because he’s afraid of displeasing his woman, his woman eventually learns that she can take advantage of him. And then she begins to resent him for being such a wuss. And then she loses all respect for him. But you can take control of the relationship and make both you and your woman happier. What do I mean exactly by “take control”? …taking control does NOT mean being macho. …taking control does NOT mean belting or popping a woman one when she gets out of line. …taking control does NOT mean emotionally abusing a woman. …taking control does NOT mean putting a woman down. …taking control does NOT mean losing your temper, screaming, or yelling. If you do any of these things, your woman will lose all respect for you. Instead, you have to take control without losing control over yourself."Click here for the full article
Derek Vitalio goes on to say that you can do this by taking a stand, making the decisions, rewarding her good behavior, not asking for her permission, and not making a bribe.
3. DISSING
Girls are sensitive creatures, and they will take offense to any jokes pointed at them. Teasing does not mean hurting feelings, so don't cross the line.
4. TURNING HER OFF
Ever have bad breath, body odor, or smelly gas? Girls hate when guys fart, pick their nose, fix their crotch, and smell like a rat's nest. It is true that clean guys get the most attraction. Too much cologne actually is repulsive, but a little is nice because they have to get closer to smell it - if you know what I mean.
Here is a quote from AcmeLove.com...
"What turns single women on and what turns single women off? It's very
important to know these things so you will know what to do to attract.
Also, by knowing what turns women off, you can avoid making mistakes
that men make which can cause a woman not to be attracted to you.
Listed here are things about men that turns on single women, according
to hundreds of single women surveyed:
*Meeting men in a public place naturally and by accident
*Honest men
*Nice men who treat them with respect
*Men in tight jeans
*A man with a good sense of humor
*Men with a outgoing and friendly personality
*A man who is ambitious and knows where he is going in life
*Men who have the ability to be himself and not try to put on an act
*Men who listen to you and try to get to know you
Listed here are things about men that turn single women off, according
to hundreds of single women surveyed:
*Men who act "Macho" and have an overinflated ego
*Men wearing too much jewelry
*Men trying to impress you by talking about their material possessions
(car, yacht, mansion, penthouse, wealth, etc.)
*Unclean men
*Men obsessed with sports (all they talk about is sports and spend
their weekends camped on the couch watching sports)
*Overweight men with a pot-belly
*Show-offs
*Men constantly pawing at their bodies
*Men who give too many compliments
*Guys always looking in the mirror and flexing their muscles
*Men who are too sexually aggressive
*Drunks
*Men who belch and fart in public"
5. ACTING POOR
What do you do if you don't have enough money? Change your attitude. There are so many great places you can have a date without spending fortune. I once asked a girl to go thrift shopping with me, so I could get a lot of pants. Always carry extra money, and if you don't have it, go somewhere you don't need it. You should never have to say, "Could you pitch in a little?"
6. TALK ABOUT OTHER GIRLS
Avoid talking about other girls all together. If she asks, tell her you won't talk about other girls - you would much rather talk about how interesting she is. Make sure that your date is your focus. Don't go on about how much your old girlfriend made you feel or how many times you've been laid. She may communicate she wants to know, but in the end, she will wish she hadn't asked.
7. EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE
If you are carrying anything on your shoulders, just remember to not show it when you are around a girl. Girls want a strong man, not a clingy wuss. They want to see a man that they can look to when they have baggage. So, learn how to deal with it - be a man and face life. Just keep telling yourself how good your life is - at least compared to living in a third world country.
8. BRAGGING
Bragging makes you less mysterious and more repulsive. I know I said that you should flaunt your success a little...but make sure it's subtle. Mysterious men are often times the men with the most power. If she thinks you are hiding something, she is going to try to guess what it is that you have. So, the fact that she doesn't actually know everything about you, makes her think that you are some sort of powerhouse.
9. "NOT REALLY."
Mandy, the attractive young lady at the front desk, is in awe of Phil's general appearance. "What nice teeth you have." says Mandy.
"They aren't that great." replies Phil.
(nothing else happened)
Way to go Phil...shaking off compliments? You know, that is pretty insulting to a girl. If you want a girl that you like to compliment you, be sure you are complimentable. Say, "Why, thank you." and keep the conversation going on an upbeat.
10. SITTING ON YOUR CAN
Has anyone ever told you, "If you don't think it will get done, don't do it." If they have, they are an idiot. I can tell you right now that I never dated until I was 17 because I just never tried. So, if you want a girl, ask one out. Don't sit on your can on a beautiful night wishing you had a girl. Make it happen! Go to a resturaunt and hit on a few girls, and if your girl is busy, do something anyway. You bring the fun, so don't rely on other people for your fun.
The Hottest of the Hot
11. COMPLAINING AND BEING PESIMISTIC
Let me ask you a question...why would you tell a girl you want to make happy something that won't make her feel good? You would only if you are an unhappy loser. But seriously, that is really stupid. So, here is my advice: don't complain, don't get pissed off, and don't talk about other people. Your focus is her, so don't let the conversation head down the lives of others. Change the subject or plainly say, "I don't like where this conversation is going." Oh, and don't act unhappy or your emotions will leak onto her.
12. GIVING UP
Sometimes she is having a bad day and just isn't in the right mood to be hit on. So, try it later. If you get a "Screw off!" the second time go away and don't flirt. And watch for body language. Don't say, "You're in a bad mood now. I'll come back later." That just pisses her off.
13. TRYING TOO HARD
Impressing a woman is not easy. In fact, it is very tricky. To impress a woman, be your attractive self. Don't try putting on your "best behavior" just be the fun-loving guy you are.
14. BORING HER
So, you got the date, and things wind down. She is bored. Don't just talk, use those flirting techniques. Play footsies. Ask her if she wants to dance. No music? Who cares! Try to make other people look at you by drumming on the table, singing, telling a loud story, or playing a game. If your lady doesn't want someone who is crazy cool enough to do those things, play a little flirty eye contact game or mouth things to her...whisper...joke about something that happened today. When boring things come up...be prepared because they will...take care of them ahead of time. For instance, a girl asks you "What do you do for work?" you can make up something bizzare and then say, "but seriously, my dream is to become..." That way it shows you are determined. To avoid boredom, it is easiest to never hesitate and to do whatever pops into your head. You bring the fun.
15. SHOT DOWN
Ever get told "no" nicely? Maybe it is up front when she says she is busy or not into something, but most of the time it will be over the phone or in an email. Getting shot down is more of the result of mistakes, but it can be full of mistakes too. There is a good way and a bad way to get shot down.
BAD: Whine, say I love you, hopefully some other time, she walks away leaving you disappointed.
GOOD: Say, "Ha! You would say that! If I were you, I would have said something way more creative like, 'Superman and I are going out. He's taking me to the moon on that night. Dinner and a meteor shower.' You really need to learn how to tell a guy off better." Don't say goodbye - just leave.
Before you say, "That won't work. You're a jerk." think why you got shot down. Chances are more than likely that she doesn't see you as having a higher social value than her, and that is what you need to fix. So, shake it off and shove it in her face. It's harsh, but do what you need to do. It may work out better in the end. After that, move on.
16. TOO MUCH TIME WITH HER
Is it possible that you can get too close? Very possible. If you want a long term relationship, don't rush things. Talking too much is rushing things. She may want to know everything about you, but keep it short and sweet with a little funny commentary thrown into it. Also, that means only talk to her or see her twice a week at first. "Give her the gift of missing you" is what David DeAngelo says. Buying her stuff before you have had a significant number of dates is rushing things too. Making out, dirty dancing, home plate, etc. is not you "rushing things" - it is her rushing things. She can say, "no" if she wants. Keep your virtue though - it is important. If you are a Christian guy, don't experiment with foreplay. It will make you look like a poser, and no girl wants to date a poser.
17. BEYOND ROMANTIC
There is a beyond? Oh yes, guys. Over-romantics turn from studs to stalkers. It is like this...a girl falls desperately in love with a man. He dates her, gets all emotional, and then starts to act like the desperate one. He calls every day. He buys her gifts. He takes her on fancy dates. He becomes less interesting to her. He is no longer the challenge he used to be. His good looks aren't working, and his charm disappears. She leaves him.
Nice story, huh? If they had Lifetime for men, I am sure every other movie they showed would be just like that story. Many times this behavior can lead to a pussy whipping if mixed with a submissive behavior. She should be trying to please you. Play hard to get, and use romance only as a spice to show off that "sensitive side" once in a while.
18. SUBMITTING
Are you a servant or a lover? Providing is one thing you don't have to overdo. Guys tend to want to be the provider. Provide her a good time and a better future. I know that I have said this before, but I want it to sink in. Don't give in, and don't ask for permission..
Here is a quote from Marius Panzarella's dating tips newsletter. It explains the reasons why some guys don't get anywhere with women. They suck up to the girls, and you have to be low to suck up. Low-lifes get stepped on, stepped over, and sometimes walked on.
"You see, most guys actually create their own resistance when they're chasing after a girl. Every time they do something wussy such as "asking woman for a kiss", they are really just creating resistance for themselves. (If you're stupid enough to ask a woman for a kiss, OF COURSE SHE'S GOING TO SAY "NO!") Other examples include: - Telling women about their "feelings". - Asking women if they like them. - Begging women to stay. - Argueing with women. - Trying to "please" women. The other path is what I call the "Path of Zero Resistance". When a Smart Dater follows the "Path of Zero Resistance", he is careful to not create resistance for himself. He follows all the Smart Dating Rules and focuses on ATTRACTING the woman rather than chasing her. He knows that if a woman is very attracted to him, she will NOT put up ANY resistance. And if she does, then the Smart Dater will carefully go AROUND it instead of confronting it like the Fool would. A Smart Dater knows that he should NEVER confront resistance directly. He knows to find backdoors and go AROUND the resistance. For example, if a woman doesn't want a kiss, then the Smart Dater will not push the issue. Instead, he will take the time to cuddle with her and flirt with her until the woman WANTS the kiss...badly."Basically, what I am saying is DOMINATE! I am going to take over the world. At least, that is what I tell people, and people just get a kick out of that. Girls think it's cute that I am serious about taking over the world. What I am trying to say is that domination gets you attention in the way you want.
19. DESPERATION
I can tell you from personal experience that comming off as a guy desperate for love is going to get you nowhere fast. I asked the same girl out three times to six or seven different places. I never got to know her. I revealed that I was "Saint Nicolas", and I thought she would jump me and say how much she loved me. It doesn't work out that way. I found it was hardest to flirt with her when she knew that I was her "admirer" because girls think that is creepy. She would rather be hit on by a stranger than by me. Instead of using love letters, use the direct approach. It displays more confidence, skill, and independence. Instead of asking a girl out multiple times in a row, flirt with her until she wants to ask you out.
20. BOLD, BUT STUPID
Surprise! A date! Aren't you excited? Don't be dumb. Asking a girl out - out of the blue - is not a good idea. She is not pressured to say, "Yes." because she doesn't know if you are hot or not. If you have a good reputation, you can do this sometimes, but if you are a stranger, forget it. You really need to hit on her first. Talk to her, flirt with her, and see if she flirts back. Then creatively invite her to something casual. Blunt is not smooth.
21. THE ART OF CHECKING OUT
What are you doing hitting on a girl that you would never consider? Are you that insecure? Just kidding - I do it all the time. I just stopped caring what my standards were. Is this smart? No, it is a mistake, and it could get you in a serious situation with a girl that you have no desire for. It has happened to me numerous times. If you are going to hit on a girl, make sure she meets your standards. This means check her out first.
22. NOT FOLLOWING THROUGH
There will be akward times. Don't be afraid. Conquer the akward moment and reach your goal. You need to remember that the girl you are hitting on probably will not chase you all around until she gets you. I mean some girls will stalk you, but most won't. If you are flirting with a girl and are having a great time, the worst thing you can do to her future is to kill it. Don't kill her future by not following through with the digits. Say, "This was fun. How can I contact you?" Be prepared with a pen or pencil. Ask for her phone number if she doesn't give it to you, and don't fall into her mind games ("Make me laugh first." - "I'm not your puppy dog."). Style's method is to keep a piece of paper in your pocket "because you like to take notes", say you have to go, write your number at the top, tear it in half, give the other half to her with the pen (not saying a word), ask her to draw a picture of herself as she is writing the number down, and then swap halves of the paper. When you need to call her, know what you are going to say. Set something up. It can be as simple as, "Wanna come over my place for a bit? I got some sick home videos. They'll make you pee your pants." Click here to read the rules on calling a girl.
23. WAITING
When you are in the game for the women, you need to know that you CAN'T wait too long. How long is too long? 4 seconds. See her, get to her, use a group opener or if she is alone, use your best charm and wit. If you wait longer than that, you start thinking too much about what should be instinct. Also, she might think you are a creep if you keep looking back at her. Within 3 seconds you should be at your destination to use your opener. This is why I've got better game when I am caffinated. :P
24. OUT OF THE LOOP
The best way to get in the loop is to appear to be in it already. Let's say a girl you like comes up with her friends, or a friend of hers comes into your conversation. If you don't do something about that, you are going to be left out of the loop. Say, "Don't be rude, introduce me to your friends. I'm Shredder, this is CoolDude." When she does introduce you, her friends will give you attention, and the situation will be 200% less akward and 200% more rewarding. She just handed you rapport on a platter.
Remember that this stuff you are reading is dangerous. Careful how you use it, because it might just get you into a relationship that you don't like, so never hit on a girl you don't find cool and attractive. Most likely, what you read will help you. If you still think you need help, ask MoltenStud at the email below or post something on the message board. Now that you know what could go wrong, what body language to use, and what traits you should amplify, you need to know how to get those girls.
