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He's going the distance. He's going for speed. Seduction can be accomplished in five steps, and skipping steps is going to lead to problems, and so can going back a step. These steps make up the proven structure to picking up chicks. Always come off as the cocky/funny guy, and these steps will start to really work for you.
1. OPENING
Sometimes a pick-up line or canned opener will work, but sometimes you need to be more creative. Come in with equal or slightly higher energy. Be aware of your surroundings. Also be sure to display non-threatening body language. In addition to the methods below, remember to not look around. It displays paranoia or insecurity. If you check out girls when entering a room, it displays barbaric class...which isn't high class, duh - so don't do that either.
| "Never," Sin admonished me in his adenoidal voice, "Never approach a
woman from behind. Always come in from the front, but at a slight angle so
it's not too direct and confrontational. You should speak to her over your
shoulder, so it looks like you might walk away at any minute. Ever see
Robert Redford in The Horse Whisperer? It's kind of like that." - from Neil Strauss' The Game |
When you approach, pretend to walk by, then out of nowhere, act like something pops out of your head and do your opener. The key is to only turn your head, not your body. When they start talking, rock on your back foot a couple times like you kind of want to go. After two minutes, turn your body to face the group. This acts as a false time constraint.
A false time contraint is necessary in displaying non-neediness and importance. As soon as people hear that you can only stay a little bit, they won't suspect you of hovering around. They will relax and focus on what you have to say without worrying that you are going to be that wierd guy they can't get rid of. No one should ask why you are sticking around, and if they do ask just say, "Oh you're right. I should introduce you all." Then introduce her or merge the groups if you haven't reached the isolation phase yet.
You need to get yourself comfortable with the group. You don't want to seem like some stranger who is just hovering around. On your second story, in the middle of it say, "Hey I'm going to sit down (or whatever). I've been standing up all day." Don't ask to sit down - it displays neediness (that's bad, btw). Add in a false time constraint. "Just for a minute, though. I have to rejoin my friends later." Then sit on the edge of your seat until the group feels comfortable with you, and then you can relax a bit. Always try to assume a comfortable position - leaning, one or both arms behind the seat, legs open, eye contact, etc. If they are in circle, you may have to politely suggest (hint, don't ask) that the group opens up a little. Actually, I usually just push two girls apart - they are lighter and easier to move and the guys are usually nice and give the ladies some space.
Situational Openers
Take advantage of your surroundings, and find out what you can say to get her attention and keep it. For instance, a guy walks up to a beautiful girl at a resteraunt, smiles and says, "You look almost as tasty as your meal." That is a lame pick-up line, and she shuns him with a little thanks and turns away. Your turn. "I wish I got hit on everytime I had a good plate of food in front of me." you say loudly. "How often does that happen? Don't be modest, now. I want the truth...before my food gets here." That should get her attention because it is outgoing, fun, and a little cocky.
Game Openers
Make a game out of talking to people. This way you can open every person in the room, and come back to the groups that you like. One game is to look in the parking lot and pick two vehicles and try to find the owners.
Canned Openers
Follow the steps. Understand the examples, but try to come up with your own openers that apply to you.
Opinion Opener: When making your own opinion opener, the best topics are relationships and the unknown. However, you can use anything.
| Start - "Hey guys. I need your opinion on something." False Time Constraint - "I can only stay for a little bit, but..." Root (why you are wondering) - "My buddy and I were just talking and..." Story Displaying Status - "He wants to get something special for his girlfriend's birthday. They've been going out for like 3 years, now...anyway, someone suggested to him that he should get her a cashmere sweater." ______Implied Status: has friends, has friends with girlfriends, has classy friends Question - "So would it be better to get it a little bigger or a little smaller?" |
| Start - "Hey guys. I got something amazingly, supremely impotant to ask you. I mean, this thing could be life-changing..." False Time Constraint - "I need just a second." Root - "I have to know if spells work. My friends and I were just talking about this over there, and we can't figure this thing out." Story Displaying Status - "One of the guys over there picked up this girl at a bar, went to a club with us, and took her back to his place. I know what you're thinking...nothing happened. They exchanged info, and she took a cab home, and in the morning, he found a little scroll with a seal on it. We didn't know what the heck the scroll meant, so we took in to some place called 'The Magical Child'. The guy there said it was an attraction spell. Since then, every once in awhile he will randomly see this girl flash in his mind with like little floaty hearts and crap." ______Implied Status: has friends, has friends who are studs, cultured Question - "My question is, do you think spells work, or is it psychological?" |
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Start - "Oh my God!" False Time Constraint - "Real quick," Explanation - 1) "You look just like so&so." 2) "Those shoes!" 3) "I used to have that shirt!" Story Displaying Status - 1) "She was my ex-girlfriend's smart-ass little sister. I always wondered what she would be like all grown up, and now I know." 2) "My sister took me shopping and we looked for those shoes for 3 days. You must have taken the last pair. I kind of hate you now." 3) "I loaned it to a girl I met at a bar because someone spilled a margarita pitcher, not a glass, on her blouse. I saw her again, but I never saw the shirt again." ______Implied Status: had a girlfriend, has taste, respectable, protective, attracts girls with messy blouses Continue - "How do you all know each other?" |
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Start - "Hey guys. I need to get your opinion on something." False Time Constraint - "I can only stay for a little bit, but..." Root - "I just went to the store, and I have to know which of these two colognes smells better. I heard that women have a sense of smell that is 40% better than guys'." ______Implied Status: interesting, adventurous The Sniff - "I need to know which one smells better." Sniff your wrists first, and put it near the girls' noses. Follow Up - Tally up your results in front of them on your wrists, and go onto your next act or story. |
2. ATTRACT PHASE
This is the phase where you demonstrate social value. I've mentioned this before, but this means using effective body language, leading the group, possibly leading on other girls first (creating jealousy), and actively ignoring and/or teasing her. If you are trying to win the guys over first, make sure you mention an ex-girlfriend in one of your stories or something...so they know you aren't gay. Do things that are spontanious, outgoing, and funny. Make everyone in the group feel comfortable. Always be a challenge to the girl you want. Say things like, "Don't tell me what to do!" "Hands off the merchandise!" "Well, you gotta do something for me first." "That will be five dollars." I saw an aquantaince of mine build his social value to a girl. It was hilarious. He would flirt with her, make comments to or on other girls, flirt a little, tease her, tease me, and flirt with her some more. Even though he was a jerk and got kicked when he asked her out, he still got her in the end, and she respected him so much.
3. ACCEPT PHASE
Now you suddenly realize how cool this girl is. Take interest in her, and get her to open up. You know, revert your flirt. Do this by asking questions that you can respond positively to: what nationality, what do you want to be, what makes you so cool, etc. Still play with her mind a little by using the push-pull theory. Tell her you like something about her, then using future projection, say it could never work out because of that quality, but be obviously teasing about it, then give her negative body language (turn slightly, move away a little, etc.). Whatever you do, be sure you bring her up a couple social levels to meet you; otherwise, she may feel intimidated.
4. ISOLATION
Now you have her attention, so move her to a place where you can have some one-on-one. Her friends may get jealous, so you may have to give her friends the option of joining you later when they feel like it. A better way to isolate is to wave your friend(s)/wing(s) over to distract her friend(s). If you two are already alone, get closer so you can whisper for no reason. Sometimes, you will have to move the whole group to the next location (EX: club to coffeeshop) and then say that you need to talk to the girl alone and that you wanna show her something cool so that she can show the rest of the group some other time (EX: cold reading, the cube, a magic trick). To make it look as if you aren't just picking her to make a move on her, pick her because of a certain trait: shy, confident, intuitive, whatever. As long as you two are mostly isolated, you can focus on the next step.
5. COMFORT PHASE
Girls want to feel comfortable around their man. Start talking a little more personal. Make her offer her name (very important), ask her favorite type of music, where she grew up, and where she likes to go. Exchange stories. Sweet talk her, and swing her into an emotional high.
Once you have established an emotional connection, turn up the physical connection process. Touch or nudge her arm when you are teasing her. Hugs work like a charm. If you are unsure of what phase you are in, do a kino test. A kino test is a fun little trick where you see if a girl is into you by seeing if she gives a positive response if you squeeze her hand, put her hand on your leg, raise or lower her hands, have her sit on your lap, have her hug you, etc. To pre-initiate a kino test, just say, "Let me see something." or "Come to papa." If you're lucky, you might be able to get in some cuddle time. If she resists any type of physical move (including kino tests) on her, just reject her a little with body language, change the subject, and revert back to the accept phase.
Once she is comfortable with you, push along the process of intimacy until your situation hits your line of virtue. If you want to meet again, set up a hypothetical situation where you are doing something anyway and she can join you - but not a place where other guys are likely to try and pick her up. Make sure to get her contact info. Don't ever say, "I don't want her phone number." Always get her phone number or SOMETHING - not as a trophie, but to make her feel appreciated, and if she was just batting practice, give her your email or voicemail (girls with lower self-esteem usually are too shy to call first). When it is time to go, make your grand exit.
This is the process that mimmicks every romantic relationship. If you would like to read the article that inspired this page CLICK HERE. Be careful not to skip steps or else it will be tougher to get the girl. Always assume that it's on. Always be analyzing which phase you are in: attract, accept, or comfort. If a girl who hasn't met you goes up to you, says you're cute, and starts rubbing your chest, there is no need to attract or accept, you are in the comfort phase. With some practice, you will have been calibrated to a level at which you will always know what to do.