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Well, some of this stuff may be pretty new to you, others of you may already hold the keys to a woman's heart, but whatever your situation, there never seems to be enough information out there on the internet about seduction. There are books and books about this kind of stuff, but luckily, I am here to stop you from spending your money. If you have further questions, just email me, and I will put your questions, if appropriate, up here on this page.
GET IN THE MOOD
Hey you introverted people...you aren't going to get anywhere if you don't leave your seat. To get in "the mood" you have to work at it. It is a place in life. To get in "the mood" you have to be healthy on at least three levels: physical, social, and mental. Be sure to always think happy thoughts. Exercise, shower, and groom - this will improve your mental state in addition to your physical health. Next, socialize with people you feel fun and comfortable around - friendship is an amazing high. And lastly, do active and spontanious things that you enjoy - this will help you become a better improviser - especially on the dating field. When it comes time to be in "the mood" you will be fully charged and ready to go. Remember: it isn't any big deal if you mess up. So just wing it, and "the mood" will appear. Do that first. If you still really need help getting into "the mood" all you need to do is talk with a flirty (girl) friend right before you enter a set (girl or group), or you can open 3 unimportant sets, and that will not only build your self esteem (success of breeds confidence) but will also give you social value.
KNOW YOUR GAME
One thing that no seduction e-zine has told me was to analyze your target. I think that they purposefully left it out so that I would have to buy their book to learn it. The easiest place to pick up a girl is at a social gathering, party, or club. These are the places where random girls generally want a guy to hit on them...though most won't admit to that. You may have to use a group technique if she is not alone, and if she is alone, simply find an interesting thing about her or her surroundings to start a conversation. But the second before you even decide that this woman is your target, analyze her personality. This takes practice, but by using instinct and by picking up on her body language, style of attire, general beauty, facial expression, tone of voice, and conversational skills, you can make a pretty good assumption about what type of girl she is in about 3 seconds. Here are some basic types of girls:
-The Princess: Wants a good looking guy who is strong and romantic to magically sweep her off her feet when she is in need.
-The Tomboy Girl: Wants a friendly guy to get to know her, joke around with her, bring her to social events, and become her boyfriend by default.
-Sweet and Simple: Wants a guy who is a man when he needs to be a man and a friend when she needs a friend. She wants a guy who is romantic, determined, and sensitive.
-Slut: Needs an excuse to get laid. If you want her, provide her an excuse. Deep down inside, she wants to eventually settle down with a successful athlete.
-Sweet and Fun: Is sweet and innocent in appearance, but really just wants a guy to be a man and rock her heart out.
-Ice Queen (Evil): Dates only popular guys, bikers, punks, rock musicians, and wealthy classes. This is a girl who is helplessly selfish to anyone not in her social arena. These types of girls are heart breakers and bad wives if not properly broken.
-Ice Queen (Good): Dates a lot of popular guys, bikers, punks, rock musicians, and wealthy classes. This is a girl who is silent to anyone not in her social arena. The ice mask can be broken, and when that happens, the true girl will emerge.
"Don't approach a woman with a sexual come-on. Learn about her
first and let her earn the right to be hit on." - a quote from The Game by Neil Strauss
NOT ENOUGH COURAGE
This can be tough. I never had enough courage until I decided to just go for it - give it a shot and not worry about messing up. Instead of thinking, "It's her...oh no! What do I say? What do I do?" think "Let's have some fun. Let's make her and that guy way over there laugh their heads off." Oh, girls just wanna have fun. It is good for your health and self esteem to be outgoing. If you can't help but to choke up, try taking back a step, think "how can I get some attention", and do something spontaneous like say "Hey, (girl)!" and lift up your shirt real quick like you are flashing her. She will think that is hot (even more if your bod is hot). If you absolutely cannot start doing that right away, warm up. Do one thing at a time until your courage runs away. If you see an attractive girl, make eye contact. Next, smile. Then say, "Hi." Ask her what her name is, and then say an opener (pick-up line) that you memorized (even better if it is made up on the spot). The best technique to overcome this lack of courage is to do one different really embarrassing thing every day, purposefully. Just make sure it is legal. Then, stay calm, and look around at people's reactions. Sometimes, you will get an applause.
SHE SAID SHE'S BUSY Chances are, she is just busy enough not to give you any time at all. Build your social value more, and don't pester her. Give her space and time before you make contact with her again. You should be the hard to get one - be more challenging - be more busy. Always hold her interest when you are around her, and don't fear her - be fierce. One more thing - go to the date anyway or go to something else, and make sure she knows you have other options. Remind her that you bring the fun and that you have importance.
Click here to read "She's Just Too Busy" by Dr. Dennis W. Neder
GETTING SERIOUS
You got the girl, now what? Do you get serious right away? Uh...no. When you ask her out, simply invite her to something really fun, and not something formal. Otherwise, the sit and stare situation could happen. Just go to cool places! After maybe a couple of weeks, she may want to see a more sensitive/creative side to you. Click here to read a section of email from David DeAngelo's dating tips newsletter.
DATING PLACES
First dates should be fun, open, and simple. Good ideas would be a lunch at a cafe, an amusement park, rock show, school play, bistro, gaming place, cinema (talk afterwards about it), coffee shop, and ice cream with a sunset. Hiking, aquariums, museums, dance nights are all great places to go too. Make sure that you don't bore the girl. Tell stories and hear her stories. By the end of the date, already have picked out the place for the next date by context of your conversation (IE: she likes music, go to the local bonanza).
JUST FRIENDS
So, the date was ok, and now you give her a hug, and you get the pat of death. She says, "Let's just be friends." What do you do now? Turn it around so that you are in control again. Now is your time to dominate. Be creative on what to say, but make sure you leave opportunity for a relationship. "I'll let you know my schedule for next week, so we can hang. I might be able to fit you in somewhere...ah...maybe not. I'm on demand. It will be tough to try to pull me apart from all the other girls that want me. See you around." Wave a little flirty wave, and if she looks like she wants a kiss goodbye, give her another hug and say, "I don't kiss on first dates." even if you already did. Then leave. It may sound harsh, but it could have been a lot worse - like if you blew up in her face and punched her - that would be bad.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Maybe you just aren't good at attracting women. Instead of giving up, go somewhere where there are a lot of girls and start to talk to them and maybe flirt or get some digits. The most important thing to do is approach them, and get used to it. Say something, and don't stalk. If the conversation isn't going anywhere, leave. Go home and practice visually what you could have done differently to get better results. Imagine every detail - how you appear, how she would react, how you would counter react, what her friends might say, etc. Doing this over and over with different scenarios will help you avoid long pauses, disinterest, and fear of messing something up. Don't just read my site and say, "That was very informative." Actually apply what you have learned. Click here to read an article by Derek Vitalio on how to move past your social barriers.
SHE'S WITH HER FRIENDS ALL THE TIME
Pretty girls are almost never alone. The key is to make friends with her friends first, and kind of ignore her and tease her for some time. This will get you the approval of her friends; her support group becomes your support group. They will no longer become an obstacle once you have their approval. Once you feel that the situation has brightened, ask her friends if you can "borrow" their friend for a moment because you have been neglecting her. Trust me. Ignoring her friends may make her feel uncomfortable, so be friendly. And let's say that this one is hot and used to attention and gets so jealous that she drags you away for herself...tease her and play hard to get, and then walk away after you are done to do something else (maybe dance with another girl...ooo...jealousy) but keep in sight. This kind of "now you see me, now you don't" thing is really an awesome technique to work on those girls with high ego. What she can't have, she wants more.
ALL I HEAR IS WAH, WAH, WAH
Who wants to date a whiny little brat? I sometimes wonder why guys put up with manipulative mates. If she whines, you may have to ignore her, walk away, or even threaten the relationship. Sometimes a simple you-aint-gonna-fool-me smile will work just fine. Girls are sneaky, so she may try another technique to get her way. Don't do these things: get angry, show jealousy, do something because you're afraid (even though you know it's bullcrap), try to prove yourself to her, get defensive, or give in. They will just show her how much of a wuss you are. If something is fairly reasonable, wait awhile and treat her with it. Be careful because girls LOVE to play games, and make sure that you aren't the loser.
Inspired by Marius Panzarella
MYSTERY'S HOOP THEORY
Similiar to the above blurb, Mystery's hoop theory is the theory that a higher status girl (pretty) will often have you "jump through hoops" for her. Hoops are usually little things that tempt you to seem like any old nice guy. "Watch my purse. I gotta pee." "I'm thirsty. Could you buy me a drink?" My favorite one: "Stand outside the bathroom door and wait for me." Haha, like someone is going to steal her as soon as she walks out the door?? Palease...I used to get that one all the time. Avoid the hoops - they disqualify you as a potential mate (90% of the time). You have two options. Say no, or say maybe. Regarding the second choice, you can still hold your value to her by making her jump through your hoops first. "Well, you gotta do something for me first...[insert flirtatious effort here - EX: Give me a back massage, sing a song, let me mess up your hair..I mean fix it..., etc.]." Let her know if her effort sucked, and that she still needs to seek rapport from you. If she asks you to wait outside the bathroom or something dumb, just call her on her BS; say no. Instead of going for her hoops, throw some hoops at her. Ask her to guess this or that, spin around, learn your secret handshake. Use them as tests. If she isn't responding well to your hoops, you haven't attracted her enough - keep building social value.
SHE FLIRTS WITH OTHER GUYS
Your girl is flirting with other guys. There are two possible reasons for this: she is testing you to see how much of a man you are, or she does not respect you. This may be hard to swallow, but it is the truth. You can fix it by turning the tables on her. Start flirting with other pretty girls - girls that she would find a threat. She may come over and start to pull you away from those girls. If she doesn't care, you might as well break up with her because she doesn't respect your relationship, and tell her that as the reason for the break up. She might come back with a new fire in her heart for you.
SHE DUMPED ME
Win her back if you want her, but definitely, just move on. Do some stuff that you didn't do because you had a girlfriend such as work out more, see your friends more, find a new hobbie, go after your new long term goals, see other women, and polish your stud skills. Here is a quote from a weekly dating tips newsletter by David DeAngelo.
"Hello David,
Just wanted to let you know of a little twist of
fate I experienced. After reading your techniques,
I made a decision to try them out on a good female
friend of mine. Her and I used to be a couple, but
four years into it things got sour and the
relationship ended. I was absolutely crushed and
felt emotionally numb. A few months went by and
I decided to get over the possibility of us
getting back together. I had pondered possible
reasons as to why our relationship ended. It had
seemed as if she just one day awoke and saw me as
a friend instead of a mate... but I came to the
realization that I had become a wussy and just
stumbled into that self defeating clinginess. We
remained friends, but I was obviously still
attracted to her. Well, I purchased your book and
decided to move on with my life and let her go
forever. Ironically, after some intense practice,
I ran into her at the mall and we started talking.
It had been a while and I had moved on, so I
(naturally) acted like I didn't want her, and I
busted her balls in every way possible. She
laughed so hard and got really excited. Well, the
next month she called me about 10 times to try to
set up a time to meet. Finally, I visited her house
for old times sake, applied cocky funny (which was
downright second nature at this point), and she
started crawling all over me! I wasn't even
pursuing her. Four years of me being a wussy and
your techniques pulled me out of it. Very powerful
stuff! Just emailed to let everyone know that this
stuff works. It also helps if you actually get a
grip of your life and don't let past loves drag you
down. Get over it and move on...it will only make
you more attractive! Take care and thanks.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Congratulations. One thing that really stood
out for me in your letter was:
'It had been a while and I had moved on, so I
(naturally) acted like I didn't want her, and I
busted her balls in every way possible. She
laughed so hard and got really excited. Well, the
next month she called me about 10 times to try to
set up a time to meet.'
Women have a very specialized and highly
advanced 'Wuss Detection System'. One of the clues
that they use in Wuss-Detection is when a guy is
overly clingy or shows TOO MUCH interest.
I know that this doesn't make a whole bunch of
LOGICAL sense, but then again, almost NOTHING
makes logical sense when it comes to ATTRACTION.
Keep up the good work, and I hope you're able
to put your relationship back together... sounds
like it was a great thing.
Just remember to NOT BE A WUSSY anymore!" Also, I have a link here to another dating tips web site on geocities. The article is from a girl's perspective, but I completely agree with what she says.
To avoid break-up mistakes, look at the ten most common mistakes for break-ups at reverseyourbreakup.com.
"TESTS...THEY MAKE ME NERVOUS..."
"My phone line is disconnected." "I don't have an email that works." "I will be on vacation." Girls are sneaky - very sneaky. Sometimes they lie. Those previous phrases are often used as "man tests". If you pass, you could be her man. If you fail, you will be old news. Just say something like, "You can tell me. It won't hurt. I promise." I can bet you she'll think that was cute.
THE SMELL OF DESPERATION
Stalkers fail. Over-compulsive geeks fail. Shy guys fail. Why? They fail because they reek of desperation. Challenging is the way to go. Tease and play hard to get. That's how a real man gets his woman. I have tried both ways. I used to be the shy guy, and now I am the shy guy's friend. Sucking up...sucks. Don't say "I love you" before she does. And don't ask her for things...grant her permission to treat you. Say, "I guess you can come in for a couple of minutes." Not, "Will you please O please come in?" That will make any girl cringe.
GETTING OVER DEPRESSION
You may be sitting back and thinking of how much a loser you are. Well stop it. In addition to the "GET IN THE MOOD" section, you should follow these steps to get out of a mental slump.
- Realize you have a problem.
- Get it out of your system.
- Think about all the things you have going for you, and how much potential you have.
- Pray. (to whoever you believe in)
- Get some sleep.
- When you wake up, only think happy thoughts.
- Move on with your life.
- Don't remember being depressed or how it felt.
LISTEN
This is a bit hard for me to say, since I am the best advice giver of all times, but sometimes...maybe a lot of times...guys need to stop thinking up solutions for girl problems. Apparently, they get frustrated with guys dismissing their problems with a simple solution. Just listen. It will make them feel more comfortable with you.
ADVICE
Let's say that a beautiful girl asks you for advice. I need you NOT to give her advice right away. You see, advice is something that we all need but don't necessarily want to hear. Chances are that she already knows what she wants to do concerning her situation, but she wants you to confirm the decision. So, follow these steps in order to resolve the situation:
1. Ask, "What do you want to do?"
2. If she says something like "I don't know," ask, "What do you THINK you should do?"
3. If she still insists on your advice at this point, simply reply, "If I were you, I would..."
"YES, I WILL"
A good technique to dominate and gain her attention is by using commands followed by a quick "yes or no" question. "You will be there, right?" "You look at yourself well, don't you?" Those are the kind of questions you can expect a "yes" to come right after.
THE END
The end is near. Ah, yes, when things are too good you don't want them to end. You think about what just happened the whole time you are trying to sleep that night. Wouldn't that be nice if you could have women thinking of you that way? Oh wait...you can! When a conversation is going good - leave - hang up - sign off. Don't act clingy. Act important. You are on demand. Keep things exciting right to the very end. Always, always make your grand exit, so she can wonder about you. If she leaves you, sing a farewell song really loud as she is leaving. I sang "All by Myself" to a couple as they were leaving, and the guy told me his girl thinks I'm cute. She could just have a thing for blond and built men.
"DO YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND?"
AHHH! I hate that stupid question. It would always mess everything up. I used to say, "I've never had a girlfriend." And they would ask me why and I had to go on this long boring story why I never had a girlfriend. I won't repeat it. I was sheltered, ok? You can tell them yes. Say, "I have thousands. Everywhere. They all want me, and they are all in my head." and then you can say, "Actually, I am really busy. A girl would have fun trying to keep up with me." Another thing you can do is to just tell whovever that you are not dating anyone at the moment, but you have a few prospectives. That sounds impressive and easy to believe.
WHEN THEY'RE BAD, IT'S BAD
I know that bad girls can be very attractive to us guys, but we should avoid them. A bad girl is dirty, offensive, crude, manipulative, or dangerously wild. These girls will stress your relationship to a breaking point. Leave those bad girls to the bad boys.
A TECHNIQUE TO BUILD SELF ESTEEM
I learned this from the internet. I promise you that it will build someone's self esteem whether it is yours or the girl. If you see an amazingly beautiful woman, and you are nervous, go up to her and say, "Excuse me. I wanted to tell you that you are really attractive, and I just wanted to see you smile." Then walk away. Every girl that heard that line did one of these: "Awww..." Sometimes, it can work as a pick up line if she catches you before you run off too far.
JUST TOO SHY - THAT'S WHO I AM
No. You are not shy. Why? Why be shy? No one is forcing you. You were not born shy. Shyness is unnatural. When you hear the "Be yourself." tip, don't think that that means to be shy. Yourself is not shy. Every day is a new day. It is time to become better, faster, harder, stronger. Yourself is gonna change, and you can change yourself for the better. Everything we apply makes us better. "Don't worry. Be happy." Get used to being unshy - it will be the new you. Girls are not scary. Messing up is nothing to worry about. In fact, you should want to mess up. See how much you can embarrass yourself. Get used to it, and learn to like it. Any attention is good attention. Keep that in mind.
THE CLING
Touching...touching...holding...hugging...no kissing. This seems to be the way of the cling date. Too much touching is a bad thing for guys - especially on a first date or first anything. I know touching is flirting, but it is useful only to a certain extent. Quick touching is useful flirting (EX: tap, poke, play, hug attacks). When she clings to you, don't pry her off either, but gently move her hand/body to another place (EX: tight hug into slow dance).
PAY DATE
Time to go home from a dinner date. There's the bill... What do you do? The rule of thumb - if she offers first, dutch (split) it. If she doesn't offer, pay for it out of the kindness of your heart. Sometimes girls think you want something from them when you buy something like that for them. So, tell them you want something in return. "I'll pay for it, but you have to flash me one of your killer smiles."
PREFERENCES
One thing that a lot of ladies' men have in common is high ambitions. They know what they want and are determined to get it. This is a huge advantage in the dating scene. I suggest setting your preferences in girls based on your future. Now this doesn't mean that you have to be deep. For instance, girls love to hear that I choose my physical and personality preferences based on whether or not they would make a good mother. In fact, one girl told me it was attractive that I looked on into motherhood in selecting a perfect mate (or something like that).
CALL ME BACK
Let's say that you leave a girl a message on her machine. It was a really cute message. At the end, you tell her, call me back at XXX-9080. Days go by and no call. My advice to you is to move on. If you didn't impress her in person, you are not gonna pimp her over the phone. Move on to hitting on other girls. I call this "batting practice" because you can swing and hit the pitches, but not run around the bases. Next time you see her, that is when you should pimp her. If she thinks you are hot, she should call back. Remember to leave her something to think about. Every girl is different, so you may have to call at different times. Some girls will not call a guy because they like being chased or whatever. When you do finally get her in person, make sure you are as fun and entertaining as possible.
ICE BREAK
Funny time! Well, just to let you know, hot girls are tired of being hit on by boring guys. Those girls are waiting for that amazing guy to come along and win their hearts. They need someone that can put them in their place. This is a great time for you to use your amazing wit. Open with a phrase that will catch them off guard. "Is there mace in your purse?" Or maybe a flirty comment with an inuendo thrown in to add flavor would be more effective. "Sweet belt. That could hurt." Careful not to be a sleeze.
ALPHA TALK
Let's say that you are at this party. Girls are getting hit on left and right. You pop into a conversation with a quick wit line (made up on the spot) and catch everyone off guard. You continue on until basically, you own the conversation. If you even tried to do that in every intersting conversation with hot girls in it, I give you kudos. You don't actually have to control the conversation, but you need to make sure your opinion counts. Why this is so important to learn how to do is because it is one of the best ways to build your social value (2nd step of picking up chicks). Becoming the life of the party is going to take relaxed confidence, and once you have that, everything falls into place. A great way to show your dominance is to tease using little, "HAHA, I got you!" games from second grade. But only throw in one or two to add flavor otherwise you'll look like that wierd old uncle.
SPEAKING IN CHARGE
Your voice says a lot about you, duh. But seriously, what I mean is that the tone and expression of your voice says more about you than what you actually say. Your shyness or confidence appears in your voice. I remember I went through one period in time in which I was experiencing a serious identity crisis in my feshman year of college, and every time I went to open my mouth to talk, a scared little voice came out. I got over it. The trick is to always speak a bit louder than what you think you should speak because you hear your voice louder than everyone else due to the way your voice vibrates in your head. The best way to overcome the little voice is to speak with your "chest voice" and not your "throat voice". Your volume comes mostly from your chest, and to get the same volume using only your "throat voice" is going to actually strain your vocal chords. Actually, Micheal Jackson took speach lessons to learn how to speak normal - which he does do every now and then. To see if you are speaking with your "chest voice", put your hand on your chest, talk, and see if you can feel the vibrations of your voice. In a social setting, you will have to talk louder than normal - just get used to it.
SHE LIKES ME
I came across a newsletter in my email by Marius Panzarella enititled "Signs a Woman Likes You." And I thought to myself, "I can put this up!" I was reading this, and I realized, "Duh! Girls like me!" Who knew?
1) She won't leave you alone.
2) She asks a lot of questions about you.
3) She talks about you a lot in front of other people.
4) She flirts with you - a lot. (And JUST with you.)
5) She tries to do little favors for you.
6) She always finds excuses to be alone with you.
7) She gets jealous when you're with other women.
8) She invites you to hang out with her often.
9) she's very "physical" with you.
10) She has actually TOLD you that she likes you.
POPULARITY
"I had to work up my popularity for three months just so I could ask her out." I heard that before, and I was thinking, "You dope. You should have been always working on it. Work on it until you die. Loneliness is generally not a good way to die." Maybe he shouldn't be thinking of dying, and I am just morbid. Or maybe we are both right - popularity is a useful tool. Of course I am right. Lots of attention equals girls' attention and girls' attention equals hotness. Using this statement, it makes sense to assume that a popular guy in general is generally popular with the ladies. Make friends. Lots of friends. If you lose a girlfriend, you should gain friends because you can spend more time with them. If you don't have that position, you will only be short a friend.
Here is a quote from Marius Panzarella.
1) Raise Your Opinion: Don't be afraid to voice your
opinions when you're in a group. The more you talk, the more
people will notice you. If you just "follow" the group
wherever they go, nobody will miss you if you're gone.
2) Become A Leader: Leadership and charm go hand in
hand. If you want to be noticed, become a leader at work or
at school. There's no faster way.
3) Be SEEN With Women: Get your girl friends or cousins
to go to places with you. Be SEEN with women. This will greatly
increase your chances of getting noticed by other females.
4) Introduce Yourself: Volunteer to introduce yourself
at ANY social settings. Don't wait for someone to come up to
you. Don't wait for your friend to introduce you.
5) Excel At Everything: The more successful you are
in life, the more noticed you will be.
ICE MASK
It may seem to you that all beautiful girls are bitches (pardon my language). I can inform you that a genuine bitch (ice queen) is rare if not extinct. Everyone has a sensitive side. These beautiful girls are not ice queens completely, but have this "ice mask" that they put on to scare away intruders. How do you break through this? Reverse psychology. This "ice mask" can be broken if you toughen up and "bust their balls" so that instead of them being over you, they are put down, making you above them in social status in their heads. If you never budge in your dominance then they will want to be up to where you are, and therefore will see you as "hot". So to get on their good side, you can't be nice. You gotta stand up and be a man - you are not gonna put up with any crap they throw at you. Once you become what they want, they might even try to pick you up. :D
DOES IT WORK ONCE YOU GOT HER?
Yes. All these things I tell you should work. Some girls are more wierd than other girls...so she might not react in a normal way. Once you got the girl, that does not mean that she is yours forever and that you can start acting all mushy and crap...some girls will let you, but that is still unhealthy for the relationship if you just start acting in love so quickly. She wants you for the man you are, not the wuss you could be. Don't do little favors, get all emotionally unstable, be typical, act needy, act over-possesive, stop attracting her, stop hanging with other friends, or suck up to her.
NO SHOW
What!? She flaked out on you man!? There could be for several reasons for the no show. One could be your imediate mistake for not arranging the date properly, but if you did point out the specifics (exact time and place), something is not right with her. She could be not attracted to you, she could be disorganized, or she could be just naturally flaky and forgetful. I need you to call her on her BS. Say, "I ain't gonna take this crap. You say you are going to be there; then be there. I don't want to hear excuses." Be firm, not angry, not whiny. If she flakes out a second time, don't ask her out again until she is begging you. After a third time, it is over over. It is very important that you are honest and firm with what you say to her. If she realizes that you aren't easy, and could actully cut off the relationship, she will know that you are worth more than most other guys.
FRIENDS THAT GET IN THE WAY
My friend G-unit and I do this at parties. We both can be pretty good with the ladies when we have the motivation. So, instead of hanging out together at parties, we hang out before and after. We don't want the competition, and we are completely different people that have no reason to stick around each other once we get there. I mean we still trust each other, but we also know we can't be hitting on the same girl. I suggest you do something similiar with your girl-educated friends. One more thing - don't educate your friends unless they want to be educated. I find it is easier just to say, "I found this web site that tells you all this stuff...it is really interesting. You wanna go to it?" and then give them my web site. That is why I made this web site - so I didn't have to explain the same thing to every guy who wanted advice. Some guys get offended when you tip them...actually a lot of guys do.
WHEN YOU GET IN THE WAY
Have you ever tried playing match-maker to set up your friend's crush? What do you do? You talk the girl, find out what she likes, what she wants to be, how she responds to your flirting (so your friend can do the same), and not let her get to you because afterall, she is your friend's crush. Well, just to let you know, that was you hitting on her, not your friend. There is a good chance that the plan will backfire on your friend and the girl ends up liking you...unless...your friend WAS YOU! Next time you hit on a girl, pretend you are trying be the match-maker with your imaginary friend. Let me know how it works out.
"I WANT A GIRLFRIEND"
Then go get one, playa! There happens to be a nine step process that Marius Panzerella has outlined for us. Remember to always make women feel good around you; always make friends; and always tease and be challenging. Click here to read the newsletter.
EMO KIDS
Emo kids get great girlfriends. Why is that? My theory is that they are sensitive. Maybe they have realized that showing emotion doesn't make them a whimp, or maybe they are whimps. But the point is that they are sensitive - which girls take as sensitive to others - especially the ones they love. So, they feel secure knowing that their man would never hurt them. Let that be a lesson to you. You don't have to be super sensitive, but you can't be insensitive. Make your girl feel good, and not like trash.
SEXY STUFF
Making out, feeling her up, having hot pink sex, oral fun, etc. is not what I like to cover because I am a friggin prude. I have to admit that I am a Christian stud. It is a rarity, I know, to be a Christian and have the moves that I do. I made this web site because I want the world to be a happier, more fruitful place. I am the "no sex before marriage" type of person. If you have any tips regarding the previously mentioned "sexy stuff" then add them to the message board. And for all you ladies reading this, don't be dissapointed - you only have to marry me first. Good luck ;)
WINGMAN THEORY
A wing is a friend or aquaintence who distracts and entertains the group that your target (the girl you want) is in so that you can isolate her and build comfort. There are a lot of tactics concerning wings. To effectively use a wing, follow these steps.
1. Open the set (group) alone. Your buddy can approach with
you, but he or she needs to exit immediately before you open.
2. Build social value until you reach the "hook point" - the
point at which the group is comfortable with you.
3. Talk about your friend like he is the greatest thing in
the world, but then say, "He is really modest about; in fact,
he is probably pissed I told you."
4. Move the set to meet your friends (and their sets), or
wave in your wing into the set.
5. Introduce your wing.
6. Your wing says, "Were you just talking about the..." and
cut him off with "Yeah, the (story or routine)."
7. Fluff talk (shoot the breeze) and continue demonstrating
value.
8. Ask to borrow their friend for a second so that you can
show her something cool, and then she show the rest of the
group later. Then say if we don't come back, feel free to
join us.
9. Isolate and build comfort with her - lay on the kino.
10. When you get back to the set say, "We like each other,
are you guys cool with that?" as she is on your arm or
holding your hand or something.
Another theory that is often piggy backed with the wingman theory is the "mother hen theory". This theory states that out of every group of girls, there is a "mother hen" or an alpha female. The main focus of a wing is to entertain the alpha male or mother hen of each group and to be accepted as an exciting new addition to the group. The last thing you want is for the mother hen to gather up all her little chicks and take off without you when you haven't gotten your girl's number yet. A great tactic is to get the entire set to bounce with you and your wing to another club or hang out place. And sometimes you can make your target the mother hen by using a compliment demand. "I love how you are the leader of your group. (pause) You are 100% cooler now...only infinite more percents til me..."
CONVERSATION STARTERS
So many guys are analytical and just don't know where to begin when talking with girls. The best openers are the impulsive openers where you just start talking for whatever reason...they just happen. The reason for their greatness is that it speaks volumes of your character when you can start up a fun conversation without even trying. But what if it doesn't happen? What could you say to grab her attention and make her want to talk with you? There are so many different types of conversation starters. I'll give you an example of each that I can think of. The ones with "*" are used in combination.
*Quick Question: "Hey, I got a quick question for you...then I'm OFF!"
*Spontanious: "Oh my gosh!"
*Casual: "Hey you!" or "Pssssttt!" or "Sup foo."
*Informative: "Just to let you know..." or "Y'know what?"
Tease: "My car's better than yours."
Neg: "Your teeth are cute. They kind of remind me of bugs bunny."
Cold Read: "You're the shy type. But...I bet there's some fun somewhere in you just dying to get out."
Warm Read: "You have perfect posture. You're a dancer. You have to be."
Body Language: "When you hold your arm like that, it signals that you are really insecure - either with yourself or the situation. Try holding your hands like this..." (the oval)
Environmental: "Doesn't that light bulb drive you nuts?" (relate environment to a feeling)
News: "Did you hear? There's some island/country for sale for like 10 million. I want to buy it...but I need help with a couple bucks. You game?"
Flirtatious: "I've been looking for a good flirt lately. I'm a little rusty and need some new techniques. On a scale of one to ten, how good are you?" ... "Great. My turn first. I bet I can kill you in a game of thumb wars."
Direct: "You girls are the most beautiful girls in the club, and I want to meet you."
Opinion: "I just want a quick opinion on something, then I sorta gotta go. My friends and I were just discussing the dangers of flirting relating to our own personal situations. If you had a boyfriend who wasn't jealous, would you feel it was OK to flirt with another guy if he started it?" ... "The reason why I was asking is because I recently just started dating again, and the last 4 girls that gave me their numbers all had boyfriends. Why can't girls just be up front and honest with smooth men before they dish out their digits?"
Prop: (wearing sunglasses) "On? ... Or off?"
Request: (when in proximity) "Can you take our picture?"
Compliment: "You have beautiful teeth - just like that girl on that old comercial. 'I'm more than just beautiful teeth.' Did you have braces as a kid or something?"
Mass Bet-Game: Make a contest to find the person with the White Mustang in the parking lot.
Silly: (with younger or drunk girls) "I'm hungry. You remind me of a hot dog. I'm a silly goose. What's your name?" ... "Beautiful, but now I'm not hungry."
*Visual: [Plant yourself in front of her and stare into her eyes, when she exclaims, "What!?"] "I can't tell you. I don't know you well enough."
That's all for now, so if you have more input, just email me. I have msn, yahoo, and aol instant messenger if you want to talk. Maybe you wish that my web site was more attractive ;) and I can arrange that too. MoltenStud is here to help, so if the web site isn't enough, take advantage of my existence and contact me or post your problems, comments, suggestions, tips, or complaints on the message board.
,MoltenStud
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