 Hitting the Wall
But what about those times when DD seems rough, as we must constantly answer to our behaviors. During the times when we want to stop all of it. This is more like a place of reckoning in DD. It is the place that signal growth. It is no longer a game, it is real. It's a serious place. It's a place of tremendous reflection. It's a place where your commitment to DD will either stop or you will cross over into a greater understanding and commitment to its practice. Loving someone is not always a motivator to stop certain unkind behaviors towards them. It would be nice, but it's not always possible. That's why the saying goes: You only hurt the ones you love.
When it comes time to discipline, Digits always hears me out . . . because he respects me as a woman and as a person. BUTT, after respectfully listening to me if he still feel like I deserve to be spanked, I will be spanked. I also know WHY he has come to that decision of spanking me. Digits didn't marry me for me to be a mindless jellyfish! He WANTS my input and respects my views and ideas. BUTT, he does have the final say so. And there are no arguments in this household about that! I know that as much as I don't want to be spanked for discipline I also know that I need it and so I come to him willingly although reluctantly. I also know that Digits loves me no matter what. Discipline is good WITH the proper communication between the couple. After the reckoning, you must decide if this is really something you want in your life. It is at this time for the real decision of accepting, or permanently stopping, or just taking a break and reflects further. This part is called "hitting the wall" as it is the time of real seriousness. The time when the reality of it all is realized. The time for reflection.
Some of these words were quoted/paraphrased by my friend petulance. Thank you Pet!
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