July, 24, 2003

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Last Friday I accompanied my good friend Randy to a charity golf tournament. It was in honor of a gentleman that lost a battle with a fatal disease. The gentleman's family has taken it upon themselves to raise money to help find a cure. I met them briefly and observed them from afar while they ran this awesome golf tournament. It was obvious to me that this family is very close to each other and that their hearts are very much into raising money for this cause.

The time and effort that they must have put in shows, and most people wouldn't have a clue as to how much work a well run tournament requires. But I have put on plenty of fundraisers in my day and I appreciated what they are doing. All the sponsorships that supplied gifts for their raffles, auctions and giveaways, take's a lot of time and energy to come up with. These are awesome people and it makes you wonder how God can let such beautiful people such as these suffer such a horrible tragedy. But, over the past three years I have suffered some horrific losses of family and friends. I have concluded that bad things do happen to good people for a reason. I do not believe that my God chooses or curses us with tragedy or painful circumstance. There are evil powers at work too! I choose to believe that God gives us what he knows we can handle. He tries to get the most out of a bad situation by pushing things to those he knows will handle it and make the most of it. Unfortunately he chose this man's family and they have suffered a great loss. But they are choosing to help others and fight the disease rather than fall down and not get back up, or to hate. He new they could make the most of it and he was right. They are a wonderful and loving group of people and I really appreciate their efforts.

A side note to this experience and perhaps the reason that I was inspired to include this story in my journal was an experience I had during the awards dinner that followed. A gentleman that was in Randy's foursome did something for me that told me a lot about this family and their friends.

His name is Philmore and I hope that is the correct spelling because this guy deserves that kind of respect. There were not enough seats to handle all of the participant's set-aside in the dinning area for our group. They did have chairs without arms on them available for those of us that needed the extra room. But, not being able to sit anywhere I ventured into the bar and was quite happy in there watching baseball on the big screen TV. Before I could settle in and start eating, Philmore popped in and told me that they had opened up more space in the dinning area and that I should come and join them. I followed him to a table; all the while fearing embarrassment if the table he led me to didn't have a chair big enough to seat me. This guy without missing a beat pulled a chair from the corner that was next to a wall at the table, and traded it with one that was on an open corner. He seated himself in the confined space in the corner in a chair that had arms and gave me the open corner with the chair he pulled from the space he was sitting in that did not have arms. He did this without incident or any request from me. He just knew, and was not only intelligent enough, but thoughtful enough to give a damn. I could have kissed him it made me so happy! It was a simple gesture but to someone that lives the life of an obese person. It was something very special and I'll never forget it. I thanked him for coming to get me and making sure I was included. But I did not let on to him how much it meant to me at the time. But I asked Randy to please contact the family and let me know how to contact Philmore. Because I want to make sure he knows how much I appreciated his kind and thoughtful act.

It should come as no surprise that a family such as the one that throws this annual tournament has friends such as Philmore. I will be playing in that tournament next year. Bank on it!


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It was in honor of a gentleman that lost a battle with a fatal disease. The gentleman's family has taken it upon themselves to raise money to help find a cure. I met them briefly and observed them from afar while they ran this awesome golf tournament. It was obvious to me that this family is very close to each other and that their hearts are very much into raising money for this cause. The time and effort that they must have put in shows, and most people wouldn't have a clue as to how much work a well run tournament requires. But I have put on plenty of fundraisers in my day and I appreciated what they are doing. All the sponsorships that supplied gifts for their raffles, auctions and giveaways, take's a lot of time and energy to come up with. These are awesome people and it makes you wonder how God can let such beautiful people such as these suffer such a horrible tragedy. But, over the past three years I have suffered some horrific losses of family and friends. I have concluded that bad things do happen to good people for a reason. I do not believe that my God chooses or curses us with tragedy or painful circumstance. There are evil powers at work too! I choose to believe that God gives us what he knows we can handle. He tries to get the most out of a bad situation by pushing things to those he knows will handle it and make the most of it. Unfortunately he chose this man's family and they have suffered a great loss. But they are choosing to help others and fight the disease rather than fall down and not get back up, or to hate. He new they could make the most of it and he was right. They are a wonderful and loving group of people and I really appreciate their efforts. A side note to this experience and perhaps the reason that I was inspired to include this story in my journal was an experience I had during the awards dinner that followed. A gentleman that was in Randy's foursome did something for me that told me a lot about this family and their friends. His name is Philmore and I hope that is the correct spelling because this guy deserves that kind of respect. There were not enough seats to handle all of the participant's set-aside in the dinning area for our group. They did have chairs without arms on them available for those of us that needed the extra room. But, not being able to sit anywhere I ventured into the bar and was quite happy in there watching baseball on the big screen TV. Before I could settle in and start eating, Philmore popped in and told me that they had opened up more space in the dinning area and that I should come and join them. I followed him to a table; all the while fearing embarrassment if the table he led me to didn't have a chair big enough to seat me. This guy without missing a beat pulled a chair from the corner that was next to a wall at the table, and traded it with one that was on an open corner. He seated himself in the confined space in the corner in a chair that had arms and gave me the open corner with the chair he pulled from the space he was sitting in that did not have arms. He did this without incident or any request from me. He just knew, and was not only intelligent enough, but thoughtful enough to give a damn. I could have kissed him it made me so happy! It was a simple gesture but to someone that lives the life of an obese person. It was something very special and I'll never forget it. I thanked him for coming to get me and making sure I was included. But I did not let on to him how much it meant to me at the time. But I asked Randy to please contact the family and let me know how to contact Philmore. Because I want to make sure he knows how much I appreciated his kind and thoughtful act. It should come as no surprise that a family such as the one that throws this annual tournament has friends such as Philmore. I will be playing in that tournament next year. Bank on it!