I post this - not to bitch about my life, but to offer it as an example of how people are funny dudes. We will mold reality to fit our needs, bend the truth or even outright lie in order to deal with stuff. You can fit that "theory" into politics, your job, whatever.

I've had a lot of people offer (unsolicited) advice about my love life. For the longest time I was "too picky". Lately, I've been told that I only want women whom I can "fix". The big one I've heard is that as soon as I stop looking - boom - there will be Ms. Right. Uh...whatever. How about this...maybe I'm just not supposed to be with someone? Other than Hallmark & the Lifetime Channel, who said that everyone is supposed to be with someone.

The other day, one relative of mine said about another relative of mine that the older one should do whatever to make sure he's with someone. He's older and will be retiring soon and should be spending his final years with someone. Weeeeeelllll...I get the point, but that doesn't mean a person should be with anyone. But if you're down with being with someone you don't really care about that much - just for the companionship - and the other person is down with it, who am I to judge.

Anyway...the thing that brought this on was something that happened today. I guess I need to go back in time for a sec...during the disintegration of my last relationship, which was about 150 years ago, this chick told me that we shouldn't be together because I wanted to settle down with a house & family and she didn't. The funky thing about this is we never talked about this. She was basically pulling this out of her ass as an excuse for us to break-up. I kinda called her on this, but already saw the writing on the wall so I didn't bother too much. I just wanted her to know that I knew that she knew that I knew....you know?

Fast forward to today...I'm going through...I don't even know what to call it. Let's just say this is the first time I'm "talking to someone" who I know up front has big-time emotional issues. It's a long story and not important to my point here. So today she tells me that we're not good for each other because I'm not stable - I don't want a house or a family. Again...never discussed it before. I seemed to have changed my entire outlook on life...and no one bothered to tell me about it!

I know why she said it...it had more to do with her issues than mine. But my point is...it's funny how we will make ourselves see things a certain way to fit our own mindframe. We humans are funny dudes.

And for the record, my attitude on having a family hasn't changed. If I meet someone who I want to spend the rest of my life with - that's my number one priority. Period. If she wants to settle and have kids, I'll suck it up and get a job I relatively don't like (within reason) to make sure we're financially stable. If she wants to work and have me stay at home...that's fine too. If she doesn't want to have kids - I'm fine with that as well. We can spend our time & money travelling and doing things you can't do with kids....like have hot monkey sex from the kitchen light fixtures.

[Digression Alert] I don't need to have kids to define my life...or pass on my genes or whatever. Do I like kids? I think everyone who knows me knows I do...in fact I prefer their company to most adults (not in a weird way). I'm a more relaxed, creative person when I'm around kids. And I know I would be an awesome father...I didn't say perfect...just awesome. But it isn't going to define me...[Digression Over]

Politically, Righties, Lefties, people in the middle, people who are not political...we all distort reality to make sure we have the least amount of internal turmoil.

And meanwhile...Whitee stands alone.